Pegging vs Solo Dildoing

@mdad so did she unleash any on you?

No. Mostly it was me teaching her all the things we COULD do. She's never really explored herself or her deepest desires yet. But she's already coming out of her shell. She asked me to find some female friendly porn for her. That's a first. She feels bad because her teenage daughter has more porn experience than her. I mean, what's a responsible parent to do? She's decided she needs to explore it and remove the stigma from her mind, and stay ahead of her daughter.

I did unleash some bombs on her though beyond anal sex and pegging. Fantasies of FFM and MMF and MMFF. Role playing. Risk taking. She has been fairly receptive to EVERYTHING. I'm a little stunned. In fact, after talking about my fantasies, she has been so aroused that we have had sex five days in a row. That hasn't happened since our honeymoon.

I'm hoping I unleashed a secret hidden nympho fiend...

@mdad I think this goes to prove my point that not enough relationships are having those vital sexual conversations. If they are they are not having them enough...if couples would just talk they could solve a lot of problems or misunderstandings.

@rook HOT STUFF....especially the what you want and dont get bit. Its hard not to read that over and over....

@rook in the don't get section .... our alignment along with the slow stroking is what puts me in a trance. To see her and touch her as she moves is delightful. Then she will take her fingernails and lightly run them from my shoulders and down over my chest and belly then grasp me. It is a wonderful thing.

@mdad we discuss things all the time, I do most of the discussing and then she does the doing. I wish she would give me something back, but I think men just have a wider variety in their devious heads. But the talking makes everything else better.

@rook Ohoh... That's hot. You write it well. So good memories.
Holding her in my arms while she was fuucking me is a great memory. And her hands on my hips... God I need to forget that woman.

Thanks for the advice @devajones, things have been a bit neglected in the bedroom department for most of the year, due to different factors. I guess it's like a flowering a way in that you need to water it and pay attention to it.

I think building back up the levels of intimacy is the most important issue to address. Then once that base has been re-established we can build on it and I can bring this back up. My problem has been that we acknowledge there's an issue but don't know how to fix it.

That said we are going "shopping" this afternoon

@cj187 so glad you are working to build up the intimacy again, wish you a wonderful journey.

How did the shopping trip go?

@cj187 YAAYYY shopping women LOVE that lol. I totally agree with you. If the intimacy factor is not up (you dont have to be nymphos, but you do have to have a good baseline) then you should work on that first. Great plan, you're a smart man. Your analogy is a great one. Good luck I wish you all the best.

@Canacan I know the feeling...I'll pass you the memory wiping device when I get done with it. LOL

@cj187 how did the shopping trip go?

OK, good news and bad news. The good news is my wife pegged me the other night for the first time. The bad news is that it was... meh. Grrrr. I don't think my prostate was in the mood to fully enjoy it. I find that in my normal sessions that sometimes I can't get anything started internally, and forcing it doesn't help. So I'm going to try to have her do it again another time when things are more ripe.

I actually enjoyed the position I was in more than the pegging itself. I wrapped my legs around her just like she does to me, and that was a huge turn on for both of us. We also tried doggy style. But for the most part, it was an unsuccessful venture on the prostate front. But a huge hit on the "fun" front.

Ain't fun the whole point?

this has been a very interesting and informative thread! A month ago, before Aneros, would have never ever even wanted to discuss this subject. It has been a fun 90 days, and the horizons seem to expand weekly now, so this too one day may happen!

Adult porn, x-art and Hegre-art. My girlfriend and I enjoy watching the Hegre-art massage videos, we are both learning a lot from them!

My girlfriend is so turned on by all the new buttons she's found to touch, poke and tease now! Much more fun than the "one hit wonder" before Aneros and the rewiring!

Question, once you've taught your anus to relax, do you find the Anero devices have a harder time staying in during your sessions? My Progasm is starting to do that now, when before I didn't have that problem.

@mostinteresting1

Kind of off topic, but no. my devices generally stay inserted. The only one I've ever pushed out accidentally was my Progasm. It's big, and I suspect easier to squeeze out. My Helix Syn and Eupho have never slipped out once fully in.

@mostinteresting1

Kind of off topic, but no. my devices generally stay inserted. The only one I've ever pushed out accidentally was my Progasm. It's big, and I suspect easier to squeeze out. My Helix Syn and Eupho have never slipped out once fully in.

Yep, sorry about that. Back to pegging!...........

Well I'm glad that it didnt hurt, and that you two were able to at least try it. Let us know how it goes from here on out. Hope things are a bit better the next time.

OK, good news and bad news. The good news is my wife pegged me the other night for the first time. The bad news is that it was... meh. Grrrr. I don't think my prostate was in the mood to fully enjoy it. I find that in my normal sessions that sometimes I can't get anything started internally, and forcing it doesn't help. So I'm going to try to have her do it again another time when things are more ripe.

I actually enjoyed the position I was in more than the pegging itself. I wrapped my legs around her just like she does to me, and that was a huge turn on for both of us. We also tried doggy style. But for the most part, it was an unsuccessful venture on the prostate front. But a huge hit on the "fun" front.

You expected too much (at least for a first try). The fun and the turn on are the point, not the prostate orgasm. Also pegging can get you the most outrageous superT. Don't rush to far away goals. Enjoy this most intimate and sexy time with your wife. Just like most sex is, pegging is all about turn-ons and pleasure, orgasm is just an occasional side effect. Don't mistake the forest for the trees.

@mdad Did it not just feel good her doing it all on it's own? I go into like a trance the second she is in.

then I you cum just as she is passing my prostate .... WHEW! She did it by accident the second time, then I figured out how to signal her with my body language.

Then if she keeps moving slightly during, I get a 45 second to minute orgasm. A giant big one with waves of contractions afterward, then my prostate is humming for 1-2 hours afterward.

Takes me a while to get spanking clean for a pegging. Usually 2-3 enemas to clean out so I can relax knowing I'm clean and enjoy her thrusting in me, we use a lot of astroglide in one session. Hours later still have gas from being pumped so much

@muscleman65 I too am very self conscious about being very clean. It is strange, when she does it I don't get the "air" however on the two times I did it solo, I did get air trapped. I really don't care for it solo, her doing it is a whole nuther ballgame. Afterward I feel awesome and my Prostate is buzzing.

XTIMEDT69 FEEL AWESOME FOR HOURS TOO AFTER SHE PEGS ME. WHAT A STRONG ORGASM. GOT SUCH PROSTATE BUZZ AND EUPHORIC HIGH. sHE SMEARS MY CUM ON THE STRAPON FOR ME TO SUCK CLEAN

@muscleman65 It is a high, but I haven't gone quite as far as you yet. :bz

@mdad Did it not just feel good her doing it all on it's own? I go into like a trance the second she is in.

It just felt... "in" (and "out"). Nothing more. My prostate just wasn't into it. I need to try it again when my prostate is more sensitive. I guess I expected more. But we will definitely try again at a later date! In fact, my prostate is pretty wiry today...

@muscleman65

I'd like to gently suggest that doing full enemas is not very good for your health as you are killing the natural flora in your colon (large intestine) that help you be regular and making your body rely on enemas to move your bowels. All you really need to do is clean out rectum and anus as that is the area that will be pegged.

As far as the gas afterwards, I'm betting that has a lot to do with the lube you are using. Astroglide has glycerin in it. And the western medical use for glycerin suppositories is to relieve occasional constipation. Not everyone seems to react to it, but a lot here have including myself. Astroglide was also the lube I used when I first started using Aneros. The symptoms you'll get from it are a very urgent need to move your bowels which will end any Aneros or pegging session, in addition to gas, abdominal pains, and a painful burning sensation on the inner anal sphincter. Try using a glycerin and paraben free water based lube, or an oil based lube.

Stay quite regular and have never been able to clean good enough without an enema. I use to get an enema 1-2 times a week as a teenager, suppose to help prevent colon cancer which my grandfather died from.Plus my mom always gave us an enema before a doctors visit .Pegging I tried just a bulb enema but partner uses a 9 or 10 dildo. After 10 minutes things have got groos so in preparation always do 2-3 before. Bulb enema usualy work s for a progasm ride but thats about it. Alternative for astroglide we sometimes use crisco

I'm very curious about pegging, and tried to suggest it to my gf... Alas with no real response. She's aware of my love for ass play, but doesn't go further than analingus or external stimulation. Though she would play with a toy once inserted.
I try not to pressure her when asking if there's something bothering her about going further, but I literally get no response.

Reading this thread I realised that it can be hard to talk about this, and I really love how everybody here supports and respects each other while having a meaningful and open discussion.

So thank you, for showing me that it is possible to have a real, mature discussion about passions, kinks and fantasies.

@HermitKatwan thanks for realizing what this forum is all about. As far as talking to your girlfriend...there is a way to go about it I'm sure you will get your wish. Any questions you'd like to bounce off the resident lady yours truly about how to approach her feel free to ask. Good luck on your pegging journey.

@HermitKatwan
You should get your GF a copy of The Ultimate Guide To Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration For Men And Their Partners. Very few women are accepting and/or understanding of a man having any type of anal play (IMO). I had an ex GF suggest pegging. I went out and bought the necessary equipment, and when it was time for the peggery... She could not go through with it. Such is life! At least your GF performs analingus on you. Be thankful for that. Best of luck to you.

My girlfriend loves to peg me, and I love it as well. I did a really gradual build up to asking her. It started one day we were showering together, and we took turns rubbing each other's bodies in soap. She rubbed soap on my butt, and gently on my butthole. It felt amazing, and her warm, loving touch made me want to submit to her. I played it cool, though, and continued the sensual shower

Later that day, I mentioned to her that it felt really good when she touched my butthole in the shower, and I asked her if she could use her fingers on me. I think she thought it was a bit strange, but she also seemed intrigued. She fingered me a few times over the course of some weeks, and every time it made her really wet, and I noticed it was turning her more and more on, and she was often the one to initiate it

I remember feeling very vulnerable when I asked her if we could buy a strap-on to use on me. My pulse shot through the roof as I was asking, and I think she could tell how nervous I was. She actually seemed rather turned on by it. She said yes in a loving and reassuring way, so we went and bought a strap-on

When she pegs me, she gets clitoral orgasms due to friction, and often has a vibrating egg inserted. Having a woman orgasm from penetrating my ass is incredible! It makes me really happy and turned on. We're usually tired after a good session, and we fall asleep holding each other in a romantic afterglow

@muscleman65

I get it. Everyones body is different. I just wanted to put that general warning out there for people. But ultimately you have to do what works for you. I'd also like to suggest that if you increase your fiber intake either by lots of fruits and vegetables, or a fiber supplement like psyllium husk powder, you might not have to do such an extensive cleaning prior to anal play of any sort. I often times don't even need to clean out at all.

Crisco falls under oil based lubes. But because it is hydrogenated, is not considered very healthy for you. You'd be better off trying 100% unrefined, extra virgin, cold pressed coconut oil, or 100% unrefined shea butter. I like the Now Foods/Solutions brand for shea butter.

@mdad Did it not just feel good her doing it all on it's own? I go into like a trance the second she is in.

It just felt... "in" (and "out"). Nothing more. My prostate just wasn't into it. I need to try it again when my prostate is more sensitive. I guess I expected more. But we will definitely try again at a later date! In fact, my prostate is pretty wiry today...
@mdad
There is more to it than just the prostate. The sensation around the anus and perinium is amazing. Don't just concentrate on the prostate. Let yourself feel the other sensitive areas back there. Like when my wife's skin touches me when she thrusts. Wow!! 😀

I would love to try pegging someday. Alas I'm a single male for the time being. I've tried my hand at some solo dildo play - suction cup to a dresser drawer. Its been fun, taught me some great things about proper relaxation during inserting. Its also made me aware of how much improper insertion can potentially hurt and therefore made me more aware of what it must feel like for a woman trying anal when she's apprehensive.

I think every guy who wants to do anal with his woman should take a dildo to himself first and learn what it feels like. It has the potential to feel amazing but like many things it can take time to adjust to the new sensations. Once you learn what that's like, you'll be much more qualified to try it on her; provided she's ok with it too.