New and Unsuccessful

Well as I've been told, there's a reason that meditation is not the same as sleep. You're relaxed and that's good but you now need to concentrate.

I've encountered this problem as well when I'm tired or distracted during a session, you kind of just feel it sitting it in there and you don't get any good feeling.

I think you need to start concentrating on the prostate and listening to anything your body is telling you.
I know that's somewhat difficult if you've never had your prostate stimulated, perhaps some of the other people here can explain it better than I can.

Hi vbbikerbums. 🙂 Welcome!

WKAI has given you good advice! Another way to say "concentrate" here is being attuned and attentive to your body, even visualizing all its sensitivities inside. It can be the tiniest little sensations, that you could miss if your mind is elsewhere, that are the first triggers to the amplified feelings you are looking for in these sessions.

If there is anything approaching "a general guideline" it might be the following...Have no expectations or worries. Be "open" and listen quietly to your body and its little whispers. Allow any energies that grow from the whispers to do whatever they will, even if it seems somewhat overwhelming at first. This paragraph is from a post to Al25 who, like you and many beginners here, just needs to reorient your attention to your body's, and body/mind's, inner communications system at all levels.

That is why Aneros is more than a sex toy, and is better billed as one of the greatest sex toys and way beyond...!!! Your "job" here is rewiring your nervous system and aspects of your brains (head and gut) and your consciousness, if you want the full potential and the full benefits possible. The beauty is that a few simple guidelines such as above can let this retraining be almost fully automatic once you follow these early ones and things inside you get started! 😀

Have you ever fingered your prostate? Do you know what it feels like to have it stimulated?

Have you read the Stickie Threads at the top of this forum, or read the Wiki, or used the Search function to find threads related to your questions?

Tell us more about yourself too as far as you are comfortable. Age? Orientation? Partner? etc...

There is lots of experience and wisdom recorded here already too! 8) Enjoy it all and enjoy your unique journey into unimagined ecstasies!! 😉 😆

travel on in joyous awareness all

artform

Well I am in my mid 30's and married for 13 years. I have not have prostrate stimulation despite both my wife and I trying to stimulate with our finger. I am new to anythign anal but quite comfortable with it in this aspect. I don't know what to expect so I can understand missing signals etc. I am very familiar with the anatomy of the prostrate and where it is but I'll be if I can't seem to find the thing with my fingers, wife's finger, or the Aneros. So far though the Aneros has been a solo mission, I had hoped to get it down before having her join in.

Hi again VB.

Great news that your wife is with you on this prostate exploration! When we stop to consider, the prostate can be bumped past by formed or hardened fecal stool as they move through the system, and yet we don't go into orgasmic ecstasies over that stimulation. It can take time, and special conditions for your prostate "awakening" to be ready and occur.

The HIH-Aneros original medical breakthrough of hands-free very gentle prostate massage happened to trigger this awaking for many of their patients, butt not necessarily immediately. In my case, it was my wife's finger slowly and gently caressing and/or gently applying and releasing a slight pressure that brought me my first (and many more!) Super-O! But that is getting ahead of things! 😆

Your instinct to initially develop your aneros practice solo is very likely the best initially. Patience with your aneros sessions with a mental focus inside your lower abdomen rather than the traditional genital associations may help awaken your prostate's sensitivity. Perhaps, you two might also share this anal stimulation potential with you both using Peridise models. This is potentially a multi-dimensional journey solo and in couple's practice of great surprises and gifts along the way.

new beginnings and awakenings always all

artform