Long-term anxiety

Posted by: @titoh

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I fully realize the obvious answer here is to take a break from both the weed and supers, but I've really struggled with it. Addiction runs in my family so it's in my DNA. It's extremely hard for me to quit things. I know taking a break of both things is what I need to do and I'm working towards that. I was just curious if anyone else has gone through a similar struggle.

Hi @TitoH, Welcome to the Aneros Forums. While smoking cannabis has generally been a well tolerated practice by many Aneros users, incidences of it producing anxiety at high dose levels is pretty well known (see Cannabis, a cause for anxiety?...). Cutting down your use may be a path forward to lowering your overall anxiety. As an alternative to taking SSRI's to reduce anxiety have you considered looking into microdosing magic mushrooms as an alternative treatment methodology? I've been microdosing mushrooms for its anti-depressive properties for a couple of years now and can attest to its effectiveness. There are be some desirable benefits from this approach and I encourage you really look into it. Please see he thread Reverse Engineering Psychedelic Experiences - How deep does the ribbit hole go? and my thread Microdosing & Aneros? for some details about this approach.

Fortunately, magic mushrooms are completely non-addictive, in fact they are considered a treatment option for overcoming addictions. It seems to me it may be an effective treatment for your situation and fortunately there are now two states (Oregon & Colorado) where such therapeutic treatment is legally available, it may also be available wherever you are located from underground therapists.

Good Vibes to You!

@rumel

Hey there, I appreciate your reply! Interesting about the microdosing of mushrooms. I'll look into that more. I'm in oregon : )

Despite what a lot of people say, marijuana is linked to causing anxiety.  Not only that but it depends on the strain you're using.  Someone I know can smoke one strain and laugh for a few hours, and another strain will cause him to have anxiety, and paranoia for a few hours.  

Some people do appear to be able to calm down an anxiety condition while using it, however from the studies I've heard of, anxiety and depression can be made worse by regular marijuana usage. 

I think you're right to lay off the weed, and aneros play.  Just take a few months off, see how you feel.  Also I'd suggest getting the book Hope and help for your nerves by Claire Weekes.  It's a really great book that has helped thousands, myself included.  It got me through some of the worst times.  You could talk to your doctor about the SSRI.  You can switch meds to see if it helps with the sexual dysfunction.  I also use an SSRI but I still get amazing erections, and great orgasms. 

Speaking personally I’ve suffered for 50 years off and on from anxiety attacks. Some awful. Mostly mild. But I came to the conclusion…..cut down on coffee. I noticed a clear correlation between caffeine consumption and my panic attacks. I regularly now only have one or two max a day and the problem has disappeared. 

Posted by: @titoh

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I feel like once I started smoking weed and having supers, I opened the gates of hell which can never be closed again. I love supers to the point where I'm addicted to it (if I'm being honest with myself). 

You need to quit weed. Period. That's the only thing that will close the gates at this point. You can still enjoy sober Super-Os responsibly later on but it might take a while before you can make them happen. If you can quit the weed and the anxiety goes away, then you might be able to stop the meds (obviously, with your doctor's approval) and then you will be able to rebuild your Super-O abilities and sex life in general. If you cannot quit cannabis cold turkey, then it might be possible to pivot to strains that are less effective for you orgasm-wise, which will give your brain a small break, then it *should* be easier to quit. 

My own experience is that it won't stop on its own until you hit some kind of Super-O rock bottom, which is a place you don't want to visit at all. You can PM me if you want to chat about it, I might have some advice for you. Don't give up ! 

Personally for me I smoked weed for around 12 years and I always did want to quit in some ways but others I didn't. It's 100% addictive I know that for sure as I'd get extremely agitated if I didn't have it and have terrible struggle sleeping at night. 

It actually took a terrible event for me to stop smoking it. I was going through a challenging period in life and my weed consumption was fairly heavy. Weed itself was predominately relaxing, though I began dabbling with extracts. I smoked a dab and ended up having a panic attack which was so bad I literally continued having them for days and could not sleep for around 3 days solid. 

I no longer smoke it and still experience anxiety in certain situations, but what I can say is that the strength it took to come out of that has led me on an awesome path of self discovery. 

I think just reduce things gradually and don't fall into the trap of identifying with things. For example, "my anxiety", or "i have addictive personality", "my family were addicts". Once you identify, you embody it.

Also yeah ssri were a complete libido destoyer. I could have sex for hours with no sensation in my penis. Women love it of course but I literally felt nothing.

I can't account for experience of smoking with the aneros as I have began this journey after quitting. 

@clenchy 

You're absolutely right about the price of entry, in some cases it can be a Faustian bargain, you pay for the pleasure in some way, time, energy, mental state.

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Although I can't say that it was all negatives, for sure I would be in a different place today if I had never touched weed or at least, stopped early. I went from absolutely zero interest in trying cannabis, to daily use in a very short while.

I knew things were worsening only 3 months in, and that was in late 2019. Now I'm doing better, but it took a long while and several 2-3 month breaks to accept that I cannot just do it once. It's not about being unable to stop, it's not wanting to stop that is scary. Each time I quit was total anhedonia for weeks on end, then a very slow climb from down the pit.

To me there's a somewhat logical explanation outside the purely neurochemical one : For me, the highs from the THC-improved Super-Os are just too high, and no achievement in normal life can compete. So what am I going to pick each time ? The real world or the dream world ? This is a hard loop to escape from... 

@clenchy yeah it was super hard. I think I quit nicotine 2 weeks later which was also super hard but I was going through such a rough time that it didn't make that much difference because I felt bad regardless.

In terms of cigarettes I don't miss that at all. I don't ever think of weed though I do think it would be nice if I could have it occasionally as there are some things I miss. Although, I am fearful now because of my experience both in terms of addiction and anxiety. 

It's great if used sensibly, but I didnt use it sensibly. 

Too much of anything isn't good for you really. 

Sounds like weed could very well be causing anxiety. If and when you get off lexapro make sure you wean yourself off to minimize PSSD (post SSRI sexual distinction). Was your super O affected by ssris?

Posted by: @clenchy

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I feel lucky to have dodged that bullet. I learned very early on that smoking 3 days in a row made me feel horrible... so I spaced it out and put recovery days in between every session. I think that made it easier.

At first I had some rules for myself, I was writing everything down "for science",  but very soon they became elastic until I was smoking every night. I could do this because I had decided to take a sabbatical, then COVID restriction happened and I could not do anything I had planned and I was stuck home... I still cannot believe this is what I decided to do with all that free time.

I also feel terrible after 3 days in a row, but the daily session made it worth it in some twisted way. I felt like all the pleasure and joy I had missed in life was finally in reach, which should have been a fair warning.

Posted by: @clenchy

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I mean, that does still tie in with the neurobiology side... since your brain adjusts to the increased dopamine, and becomes less excited by normal things. The baseline is fucked up like that until it recovers.

Everything is still tied to biology, that's true, we're only putting words on chemical reactions. It does take a fairly long while to recover, and with a messed up reward system, it feels even longer. 

Posted by: @clenchy

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Though it isn't even just a weed high, it's a turbo-charged sexual experience in someone who was already sensitized to prostate stimulation... so who even knows how that dopamine-spike measures up against the more destructive drugs.

Exactly, it's not the weed, and it's not the Aneros or Super-Os, it's a perfect storm, at least for some people, where they get this insane synergy. I think it would be scary to see how close this comes to certain stronger drugs and their psychological side-effects. I read lots of stories from recovering hard-drugs addicts, also watched hours of interviews, and there are some very disturbing parallels. 

@clenchy 

Looks like we came to similar conclusions. It does show you how to navigate things at the higher levels, but it's like watching one of these videos where a famous guitarist shows you how to play a solo. I see what he's doing, but it's impossible for me to move my fingers like that. But it's still true that the way to play the solo is to hit all the right notes at the right speed and pressure, and none of the wrong notes at the wrong speed. It can be true and meaningless at the same time, just like carving a masterpiece is simply about removing everything that is not the masterpiece. Which is again true, but does not help anyone.

So yeah, once I get back there to step 15 or whatever, I'll know exactly how to find my way to the next level, but I can only manage from 1 to 10 right now, so this knowledge is not that helpful. I know I need to let go, man this is obvious, but knowing how to let go, or even how to put myself in a place where the possibility of letting go is present, that's another thing entirely. 

@clenchy 

Posted by: @clenchy

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There's something else I got from weed that I never figured out sober, which is feeling more "present in my body". It's a hard thing to even describe.

I'm pretty sure I'd be back on track if I could shut my brain down a bit, and focus on what is happening rather than on my mental representation of what is happening. It's like things are going through a filter that removes some bits that are essential to success. 

There was even a period of time where I would snap out of Super-Os because I was so focused on "solving the puzzle" that I would start thinking about new ways to explain the process to others. It's amazing to me how easy it is to lose the orgasm even right in the middle of a super intense session if my mind starts to wander.

Posted by: @clenchy

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There was more presence in it, less delay, yet it was so self-evidently how things should be felt, though it wasn't obvious before.

Yeah, I think this also comes down to what almost every human asks himself at one point or another : Am I normal ? If I'm stuck outside the Super-O bubble because of some undiagnosed ADHD, and once in a blue moon I manage to focus for some strange reason, then maybe I need Adderall ? Is it the missing thing ? 

Then again, I did experience Super-Os for well over a decade stone cold sober, so if it's ADHD, did it get worse at some point ? Did THC ruin some fine-tuned mindset I had managed to build over time ? I think it's going to take some effort no matter what, and different people will struggle with different aspects, unless some lucky person has a "perfect mind" for this. 

I think one path is how super high arousal really lowers inhibition and thinking, and this is well documented. And maybe this was easier for me to achieve 20 years ago. Maybe this path is mostly closed right now, and I have to look for an alternate one ? 

@clenchy 

For me there are definitely 2 paths, an arousal-based one, and a relaxation-based one.

If I try to think back about my beginner's experience (and believe me, I kick myself for having zero notes from that period) I think that I could get to the relaxation option early on by using hypnosis as a way to focus and avoid boredom. Then after succeeding, I got confidence and proficiency in navigating the steps, and the prospect of having a session became arousing, and that balanced well with a bit of relaxation, but I needed less focus than when trying to achieve S-Os by fully relaxing and getting into a trance. It still required effort, but a very reasonable amount. 

As life happened and stress from work and increased responsibilities got more present, my success ratio saw a net decrease. I accepted some duds, thinking that you can't always hit a homerun. There were some periods where I just could not do it, but it always came back. 

With cannabis, there was none of this, as it was purely arousal-based right from the start, and I could always get it to work since the drug always had the same effect : it gave me intense arousal, and total focus on the arousal and pleasure. After a while my health was falling off a cliff, but some THC always delivered Super-Os, even with high anxiety and other side effects. So I could at least conclude that "arousal trumps all". 

I don't think we're doing that much of an hijack, after all, this is still about THC and anxious people, and relying on cannabis for Os even when the price to pay becomes pretty steep.

Posted by: @clenchy

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The weirdest one was when I was too drunk & stoned to even insert an aneros, and I just lay there, empty-minded and fogged out... then some 20 minutes later, remarking to myself "What model is this? It's awesome", because a whole a-less thing kicked off that felt indistinguishable from any other night with weed & aneros. I find experiences like that hard to integrate into sober life...

Absolutely, I had this exact same thing happen more than once. At some point I was scared of using an Aneros and I would only do Aless. What we can integrate is that under the right circumstances, Aless is really the same as using a device. And a lot of my early hypnosis sessions were without a device because I did not own any prostate massager when I started, and I could still get some experiences that were similar to S-Os. Knowing that it's like Tantric training wheels, and actually experiencing it are very different things. 

I agree that coming back from these automatic results, only to end up trying to prod some kind of pleasure out of duds can really ruin things. I relapsed after several months last time because things were beginning to pick up, and my lizard brain whispered to me that if I could do it again sober, then imagine what it would be with a little help from the devil's lettuce. Well f*ck that guy... Then it was back to quitting again. 

Posted by: @clenchy

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Did you experience something like a phantom device?

Yes, just like you I was asking myself if this was the Eupho or maybe a Peridise, but I had nothing inserted. It's pretty hard to tell what is happening exactly, but I feel like there are some muscles making contact somehow. Or maybe the body makes a connection between anal and PC contractions with the device, and fills in the blanks when no device is present. Having played with a finger, I know that at the moment of orgasm, the muscles can squeeze surprisingly hard, and contact between the PC muscles and prostate is possible. I don't know how universal that is, but I know someone who is very acquainted with scientific literature and who may be able to answer this. Stay tuned ! 

We know from literature on phantom penis in trans men that phantom pleasure can be felt from stroking a strap-on or visualizing a sensate penis where the strap-on is removed. This means that toy-less pleasure could be brain-down, sending arousal to areas stimulated by the actual toy.

Also, just by displacement of energy from aless contractions alone, all nerves in the first couple inches should get some amount of stimulation, including those of the prostate. In this video of pelvic floor contractions, you can see how many structures change position. This movement can massage the prostate without anything inside: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkXsfeixq0M

Posted by: @zentai

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Posted by: @clenchy

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Did you experience something like a phantom device?

Yes, just like you I was asking myself if this was the Eupho or maybe a Peridise, but I had nothing inserted. It's pretty hard to tell what is happening exactly, but I feel like there are some muscles making contact somehow. Or maybe the body makes a connection between anal and PC contractions with the device, and fills in the blanks when no device is present. Having played with a finger, I know that at the moment of orgasm, the muscles can squeeze surprisingly hard, and contact between the PC muscles and prostate is possible. I don't know how universal that is, but I know someone who is very acquainted with scientific literature and who may be able to answer this. Stay tuned ! 

here is my opinion.  When you're very aroused (making out with someone), you will often start leaking precum.  This indicates that no penile stimulation is required to get the prostate going.  Combine this with muscles you use while having an orgasm being well exercised, and trained from using the aneros, and I think it results in an internal massage using your own muscles.  Kind of like if you have something stuck in your teeth, and you're able to use your tongue to remove it without having to think about it much.  So when you're aroused, your muscles start working as if the device is inserted when it's not, and so you get a similar sensation.  

Just my 2 cents. 

I have smoked weed off and on for 12 years. I will go thru phases where I will smoke 3 times a week... phases once a week... and phases where I stop for months.

I definitely got addicted to aneros for around 6 months and would have sessions twice a week and I could Aless all the time. I would have amazing Aless sessions anytime I wanted. 

I noticed that when I stopped weed for 3 days+ the Aless started to die down. I feel like the thc in your system helps you feel this.

Anyway I haven't used the Aneros for around 3 months and have not smoked for 2....I now have 0 aless feeling and can not get it back.

I know as soon as I smoke again the Aless will come back. It may be a point where you need a long break to reset your body. 

With the thc stop also anxiety goes down and you think more clear. Focus on exercise, eating better etc.

I will no doubt get back to aneros at some stage with THC as we all know its fucking amazing. But having a long break is always good.

Posted by: @justcurious12431

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Posted by: @zentai

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Posted by: @clenchy

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Did you experience something like a phantom device?

Yes, just like you I was asking myself if this was the Eupho or maybe a Peridise, but I had nothing inserted. It's pretty hard to tell what is happening exactly, but I feel like there are some muscles making contact somehow. Or maybe the body makes a connection between anal and PC contractions with the device, and fills in the blanks when no device is present. Having played with a finger, I know that at the moment of orgasm, the muscles can squeeze surprisingly hard, and contact between the PC muscles and prostate is possible. I don't know how universal that is, but I know someone who is very acquainted with scientific literature and who may be able to answer this. Stay tuned ! 

 

here is my opinion.  When you're very aroused (making out with someone), you will often start leaking precum.  This indicates that no penile stimulation is required to get the prostate going.  Combine this with muscles you use while having an orgasm being well exercised, and trained from using the aneros, and I think it results in an internal massage using your own muscles.  Kind of like if you have something stuck in your teeth, and you're able to use your tongue to remove it without having to think about it much.  So when you're aroused, your muscles start working as if the device is inserted when it's not, and so you get a similar sensation.  

 

Just my 2 cents. 

 

Agree with this 100% combined with THC also your mind is more aware of your muscles.

@clenchy Thanks for your reply. Good to know other people share similar struggles.

@justcurious12431 I fully agree. I think my heavy marijuana use has opened up something in my brain in a bad way. Even after a 60 day break, I still have anxiety attacks. I'm curious to try a longer break from both weed and alcohol to see if there is any improvement. Thanks for your reply.

Posted by: @justcurious12431

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I think you're right to lay off the weed, and aneros play.  Just take a few months off, see how you feel.  Also I'd suggest getting the book Hope and help for your nerves by Claire Weekes.  It's a really great book that has helped thousands, myself included.  It got me through some of the worst times.  You could talk to your doctor about the SSRI.  You can switch meds to see if it helps with the sexual dysfunction.  I also use an SSRI but I still get amazing erections, and great orgasms. 

Do you mind me asking which SSRI you're taking? 

Posted by: @bill-bately

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Speaking personally I’ve suffered for 50 years off and on from anxiety attacks. Some awful. Mostly mild. But I came to the conclusion…..cut down on coffee. I noticed a clear correlation between caffeine consumption and my panic attacks. I regularly now only have one or two max a day and the problem has disappeared. 

Thanks for your reply and tip! I agree that limiting caffeine could help. 

@zentai I know you're right about needing to quit weed before anything will get better. I'm ready for a change and it needs to be done. I appreciate your positivity and support!

Posted by: @lee92

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I no longer smoke it and still experience anxiety in certain situations, but what I can say is that the strength it took to come out of that has led me on an awesome path of self discovery. 

I think just reduce things gradually and don't fall into the trap of identifying with things. For example, "my anxiety", or "i have addictive personality", "my family were addicts". Once you identify, you embody it.

It makes me feel better to hear experiences like yours. Thanks for your support!

Posted by: @clenchy

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Sorry for the thread-hijack. Jump back in at any time. I'd be interested to hear your progress.

No Worries at all! I appreciate the discussion. It's great to hear from others that have had similar experiences.

I quit smoking cigarettes 20 years ago and it was the hardest thing I ever did. I knew I needed to quit at the time. That coupled with starting a new relationship at that time gave me the strength to make a change and I did successfully quit. I'm feeling the same way about cannabis and alcohol right now. I know it's time to stop. I'm going through a divorce right now as well. Luckily it's super amicable, but it feels like a pivotal time in my life where I can move in a new and healthier direction. I'd rather focus my energy into more positive things like exercising, my kids and my careers. 

It makes me feel good to know I'm not fully crazy or on my own with these struggles. I think simply creating a post and spilling my issues is a way to help me process and understand when I'm at. It's partially an exercise in just being honest with myself. I'm starting to feel the strength and confidence to make some serious changes soon. 

I appreciate you guys! 

Posted by: @jiji2000

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I noticed that when I stopped weed for 3 days+ the Aless started to die down. I feel like the thc in your system helps you feel this.

I think you're right about the THC staying in your body. I'm the exact same. My body still has a slight THC buzz the next day after I smoke.