Just used for first time. A question.

... Is that a typical experience?

@jimbridger , I'm sure you've heard some form of this cliché before on this Forum 'Every man is unique and his reaction to Aneros use is going to be unique as well' but it is true. While you may have hoped (expected?) your new Aneros model to provide one type of experience you are now finding your experience to be different from that original idea/hope/expectation. Men who take on the Aneros journey often do experience some commonality of sensations, feelings and emotional states. I suppose we could label these 'typical' but there are also a number of reports of sensations, feelings and emotional states which are quite diverse and unique as could be expected from unique individuals. So... in answer to your question was your experience 'typical', I'd say probably not as I do not recall seeing such a report on the Forum before. As we grow older and our bodies change, our bodily responses to stimuli change too, this just may be such a change for you. I don't think it is anything to be concerned about. Good Vibes to You !

@rumel Thank you for taking the time. I suppose it's a 'wait and see' experiential kind of thing. I'm a therapist so I certainly appreciate the complexities of all human experience. Is there anything special I should be doing to enhance or promote 'traditional' orgasm vis a vis purposeful contractions of the anal or PC muscles during intercourse, or is it better to let the sex unfold naturally as per usual and just wait and see if the HST 'does its thing' so to speak?

Is there anything special I should be doing to enhance or promote 'traditional' orgasm vis a vis purposeful contractions of the anal or PC muscles during intercourse, or is it better to let the sex unfold naturally as per usual and just wait and see if the HST 'does its thing' so to speak?

IMHO, I don't think there is anything special you 'should' or could do to enhance what occurs naturally during intercourse. The addition of an Aneros to the activity is about as much as you can do without getting into some really kinky supplemental stimulation practices. I'm a believer in a non-coercive approach to pleasure generation but to each their own.
Good Vibes to You !

I agree! Glad to have your corroboration! In your experience, have men used it successfully as an aid to coming more quickly during intercourse. I wish I had the typical 'premature' problem since my gf wouldn't care how quickly I came! Old age sucks.....lol

In your experience, have men used it successfully as an aid to coming more quickly during intercourse.

You are somewhat an outlier with respect to this topic. I really don't know how successful such men have been as that has not been a much discussed topic here on the Forum. I can recall reading some posts by men hoping to improve their ejaculatory output, both volume and duration but not necessarily a desire to accelerate the onset of ejaculation. In that respect you are probably in a very small minority group. There have been numerous threads about techniques to encourage HFWO's but not really about accelerating the time to achieve them. There have also been numerous threads about ways to avoid HFWO's while using Aneros devices. Since our DNA is primarily interested in reproduction of the species, ejaculation stimulating behaviors get rewarded by pleasurable dopamine infusions and we can learn behaviors to accelerate that ejaculatory event but the downside to frequent and rapid ejaculations is the refractory periods those ejaculatory events cause and the hormonal roller-coaster effect on one's libido and arousal abilities. I would speculate the majority of men on this Forum are more interested in heightening and prolonging their orgasmic experience by forgoing their ejaculations, hence the discussions on the practice of semen retention.
Good Vibes to You !

@rumel. ok. I appreciate your thoughtfulness Rumel. I'll keep you posted if any interesting happens with my quest!

@jimbridger Hey man, not sure if this will help your situation but from my experience, continued use of aneros in sessions (by myself) have resulted in stronger erections, more sensitive penile nerve endings and overall, sex just 'feels better'. I would recommend you stay the course with your gf, keep using the aneros on your own or when you hook up (coming with the aneros inside you feels insane if you have not yet tried it, and may lift your arousal through the roof, leading to a quicker ejaculation).

There was a period of time a couple years ago where it took me a long time to orgasm. I am 48 now, and yes, it is usually awesome to last as long as you want in bed, but when she is getting sore, you are getting tired, it is definitely nice to cum when you are ready. With aneros use, I still last, but I can cum when we are ready for me to cum.

I make no promises for your sexy times being shorter, but I think you will find that using aneros will help you in this area.

I will just add that if you manually masturbate you may wish to either reduce the times you ejaculate from it, or abstain all together, if your sex is frequent enough to satisfy your release of semen. Semen retention of even a few days will be an enormous boon to you if you want to cum sooner. Lastly, manual masturbation will leave your penis more sensitive to being inside her, again leading to shorter sexy times.

[USER="58120"]Neveryman[/USER] Thank you. That helps a lot. Your last sentence....masturbating or refraining from masturbation will leave me more sensitive to being inside her?? Thanks again.

@jimbridger all I mean is
if you self pleasure with your hand a lot, it can make your skin less sensitive and so can also take you longer to orgasm during sex. If you can learn to get pleasure from non penile stimulation like aneros, you may find that when you do have sex, you have fresher penis nerve endings and it won’t take as long to come.

Again, this isn’t a guarantee and I don’t even know if you hand pleasure yourself a lot. Just observations from my own body and life.

If you decide to go the prostate orgasm route, with all that comes with it (increased sensitivity of the entire body, increased libido and arousal, dry orgasms), you might realize that ejaculation isn’t important. One of the main ideas circulating on this forum is about savoring the journey, not just having an orgasm. If you spend the time to learn how to use your toy and discover the multiplicity of non-ejaculatory pleasures one can experience, you might realize as I have that forgoing ejaculation during sex to is not only fine, but sometimes even preferable.

[USER="58120"]Neveryman[/USER] Thank you very much. I think you're right. I think a longer period of time between ejaculations would help too. It's a weekend relationship so holding off from Sunday to Friday might help the cause. Also, what I've gleaned from the forum is to not think of Aneros as a DIRECT route to my stated goals; Just using it, getting the massage and stimulation, enjoying the journey, will further sensitize the entire region and lead eventually to easier orgasms during intercourse. I had a good first solo session last night, enjoying lots of new sensations for about 30-40 min. I wasn't focused on my penis, but after 20 minutes the feelings there started to happen naturally. I also noticed the sensations lower down in the shaft and found myself touching there instead of the frenulum area, which surprised me...in a good way. It's a learning curve and a process. I appreciate your kindness and help with this. Thanks again. It's a nice community!

Hey@jimbridger Welcome to the forum! One piece of advice I can offer is to start a kegel exercise regimen. Learn to exercise your pelvic muscles daily. There are good phone apps for that. The strengthening of the pelvic muscles unlocks amazing sensations! I learned how to achieve hands free dry orgasms just thru kegel exercises and then learned to utilize the Aneros devices which allow me to experience prostate massage which is extremely beneficial! Keep us posted on your progress!!