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It's normal to not feel much when you're starting out. It's something your body has to learn, and your mind has to tune into.
It's not necessary to know when it's hitting your prostate, so just don't worry about it. The prostate is a strange beast. You can be beating the crap out of it and still feel very little in the way of pleasure... but when the prostate wants to play, little tiny twitches can feel completely insane. So it's not a matter of beating your prostate into submission. It's more about a slowly building arousal, that makes the prostate increasingly receptive.

This is what makes fingering yourself so hard... you can search, poke and prod, and it feels like you'll never find the right spot, because nothing is immediately responding to touch... but if you do find the right spot and continue to work it, you can build it that way. A big part of the reason I got the Aneros, is that the process takes so long, my wrist was getting tired!

So just forget about it, assume the Aneros is sitting right where it needs to be, and explore the subtle feelings of the Aneros resting against your rectal wall... how does the feeling change if you squeeze this muscle or that? Do you feel different anywhere else? Some kind of dull sensation in your lower abdomen?
You have to dial things down, relax, and turn your attention inwards. Get accustomed to new sensations.

The feelings are nothing like I could ever have imagined... they are familiarly orgasmic, like a small slice of something I've felt before but never noticed, magnified 100 times. But it's still alien in its own way.

Again, it's not necessary to know when the prostate is being physically hit, because there's nothing you need to do when it happens... nothing you have to time it with, or push harder for. It'll take care of itself. Your only job is to enjoy the experience and focus your attention on what feelings are happening. Once you build familiarity with the new sensations, and learn to speak that new language, you'll get a better sense for how to follow it. Easier said than done, I know.

Anyway, this kind of question has been asked a lot over the years this forum has been active, so I'd recommend doing searches... those old posts are gold and every bit as relevant now as they were then.

@Clenchy well written; excellent advice!
@Guming welcome on board! Keep an open mind and learn to enjoy every twitch and sensations you feel; they are the ones that will eventually evolve into the hands-free orgasms you are seeking. Great health benefits also awaits you. Enjoy your journey.

I have the same "issue", and after nearly 2 years, it's kinda frustrating. But I kinda just ignore this now and still have a session.
Just listen to the advice from @Clenchy 🙂