Doesn't seem to work

Hey. just bought a Helix. Lay on side, inserted. Lay there. Nothing. Lay on back. Did the sphincter tension thing. Nothing. Maybe Im dead. Any ideas ?

Hey, welcome @Coastalbuddy
You shouldn't expect much progress on your first go.
This is not like traditional masturbation. This is something different.

Have you read the wiki pages? http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Aneros_Basics and the other pages to the left are a good place to start.

This stuff takes time to learn, to tune into. It's like learning to speak a different language. It can take many weeks and months, even years: you are not suddenly an expert speaker of a different language on your first go.

Relax your body, your muscles, remove expectations and play with different techniques.

Hope you have a good journey!

Same happened to me last week. I bought a yoga mat. I lay down on it. Nothing happened.

Hey @Coastalbuddy, just kidding, never mind!

My introduction isn't only meant as a joke, it shall help you by giving you a second example to understand your new tool.
You might also compare it with the ring of the Green Lantern. The ring itself is capable of nothing.

You only just got your yoga mat. Now it's your turn to begin your journey of discovery.

One very good idea is reading all that interesting stuff about other's experiences. But as everyone is absolute unique you will soon feel frustration with every fail when emulating somebody.

Instead you could better try to behave like a child that's trying to move, trying to crawl, trying to stand up, trying to discover itself. In my fourth month of discovery I suddenly got fantastic feelings from sucking my thumb and touching my palate. Be sure, this journey is that crazy. The power of silliness can help you on your path!

For the beginning I would do every different motion possible and from fast to slow instead of only lying and wishing anything would happen. But then again rest and watch yourself. Try to listen to your mind's voice. Did your moves give you some new feeling? Did your body suddenly tell you how to move? Did you change your breath? Did you feel some tingle, some energy anywhere?

Try to look at your path with a child's eye fully open for wonders, admiring this, then that, loosing itself to the moment.
That's the way it is, that's meditation, that's focus, that's curiosity, that's Tantra all at once. And it's the way to your personal bliss.

Good vibes and welcome to the forum! Keep us posted about your way. Soon you will help the next newbie as I try now.

But take your time, avoid expectations, thus you make your mind blank as a child's mind and able to feel the vibes again that accompanied you since your childhood. Since then most of us have become blind and deaf for them, ordered to listen to the teacher instead of to your vibes, ordered to sit still instead of running and jumping, ordered to speak calmly instead of crying and shouting. Since some milestones of my journey I LOVE my morning car ride allowing my chakras to shout, cry, sing, hum, grawn and moan.

Typing the first two sentences of the last paragraph I not only felt a sudden chairgasm (meaning an orgasmic feeling throughout the body while only sitting on my desk chair), but also wondered whether the tears I shed during my last orgasmic experiences might be caused of the joy of reunion with my inner child. Amen. As this thought again let me shiver and gave me warm vibes that must be right to me, in my personal view and under my personal circumstances.

Is it true that kids are not sexual? Aren't they orgasmic beings enjoying laughgasms, jumpgasms, stampgasms or even crygasms all their day? I still can remember one very special moment of my early childhood when I found myself lost in my crying cause it became comfy to me somehow giving me the cosiness I just missed, why I didn't want to stop it. In those early years I already had this first conscious out-of-body experience watching myself like another person. Let us free that inner child again!

I wish you good luck with your journey! 🙂

Hey @Coastalbuddy, when logged in you can edit your first post, you must not create a new one of the same topic.

Cheers!

Well said SO. From my experience I would like to add that in my journey I discovered especially just before my prostate orgasm starts I become aware of a deeper state of relaxation. Indeed totally relaxed like a child. During our adult life we are building up a lot of tension in our muscles. To let go of that tension takes time and practise. Not only does this deeper relaxation lead to a prostate orgasm it may also lead to tears streaming from my eyes. A mix of sheer joy and a release of those old tensions built up in my muscles.

Be patient it does not work instantly. I had to wait for nearly 1 year before I got the feeling

@gdunn, thanks for your approval and for adding missing puzzle parts matching fully to my theses. It's said that all our muscles around our body's natural orifices are connected. Relaxing one relaxes the others. That's the answer I searched for. My tears of joy, everyone's tears of joy coming from release of tension, that fits! The asians are close, if that's why they often draw faces full of tears when they depict scenes of ecstasy in anime porn. Good vibes!

hey Coastalbuddy, spend some time reading the fourms especially B's Key to the Backdoor and setting very low expectations - relax into the feeling of the insertion and tune to the very faint flutters you will soon start to feel. These will grow, become pronounced, control will be possible, but this takes time in the rewiring process.
Enjoy the Journey!