Changes via The Journey.

@mistral 

Your experience largely mirrors mine; can't yet get the Super-O without THC and I am struggling to accept the vast amounts of pleasure. Been slowly breaking that barrier though!

@divine_o  I can honestly say I have never had a bad break up, with any body, pretty well always had a good sex life, adding a super o to it, wouldn't have changed a thing. I known several people in my life who put up with a lot of shit only because the sex was good. Having a super o is not going to change an asshole, into a nice guy or better person. Nice thought though. Th e human condition, needs far more than a super o to change.

@zentai

Posted by: @zentai

I can't see how it would not be better.

I think it could change some people,I’m unsure whether or not it would alter society. It might actually cause more problems than it fixes through addiction and reduced productivity lol. 

Posted by: @helghast

It might actually cause more problems than it fixes through addiction and reduced productivity lol. 

Like smartphones ? Hehe, I fail to see how addiction would be really widespread, of course it can happen, but it's manageable. I don't think we would end up with people withering away, the experience is self-regulating to a certain point, your body won't allow you to always be in Super-O states.

On a larger scale where S-Os would be as popular as, I don't know, BBQ-ing or gardening, then it would only partially replace other activities. I could see guys having Super-O sessions instead of going out on Friday, but this would be far from society-wide changes. 

If we're talking about a Super-O based society / utopia, where everyone gets along,  better start right now, we have a long way to go. On the other hand, every society altering thing had to start somewhere...

Posted by: @caesar713

I scoffed at a bit at these, for two reasons: 1. My life seemed fine as is, and 2. I was listening to learn about sex,

Was in the same boat,life,relationship and sex life were grand,and always has been. Great times I thought,until I learned there was a better time out there lol.

Posted by: @caesar713

So I started working out more and eating more carefully and got my cholesterol down. I also thought that being in shape and eating healthier might optimize my sexual experience, in terms of specifically my abs contracting during orgasm or being able to feel better physically performing  sex (not that I felt bad, but just trying to optimize the experience for both my wife and I).  

Then, looking and feeling in better shape, I thought it would be nice to optimize some other parts of my looks, so that I’d look better for myself and my wife, including while I’m having orgasms/sex sessions. So I started shaving my chest/back/genitals (I was pretty hairy, which my wife and I didn’t mind, but I like being smooth and shaved better and turns me on more during sex/sessions). This also helped with body odor (again, not that I was bad in this area, but now I’m objectively better). I also started using safe natural body deodorant on my genitals, anus and bottom of feet. Most of this is for myself, although my wife certainly appreciates it but stresses that she doesn’t need it. But I like looking in the mirror more now and seeing how smooth and shaved I am. It just makes me feel more erotic in general. 

All of this shows if you invest in yourself,you’ll be rewarded it. Love it!

Posted by: @caesar713

It’s minorly improved my relationship and inner peace, but I didn’t really have many complaints before my journey, so nothing major comes to mind. The big things have again been more “surface-level” in terms of health and wellness. 

Improvement is improvement no matter the scale. Better improving a little than not at all,what’s the point in doing nothing.

Posted by: @tbob

Were a pretty exclusive group, and I for one like  that about us.

Would you prefer for us to remain in the shadows as opposed to mainstream?

Posted by: @mistral

That's insane, I still have difficulties to understand why "nature" made it so complex. It's even funny how strange this full journey is...

I don’t even think it is complex,I think it’s the society we’ve built and the way we live and work that’s complex. I look back to the beginning and wonder why I didn’t do what I do now,because it isn’t hard lol.

Posted by: @mistral

It's really life changing

It definitely changed mine 🙂

Posted by: @helical

Perhaps if we hadn’t so fully absorbed the socialized  reductionist view that his penis is a man’s be-all and end-all

There’s also the cunning of Mother Nature to make sure reproduction would not ride shotgun to  orgasm. I wonder if we learned the prostate first,’normal’ sex second,would it impact the formation of relationships and bleed in reproduction itself. It would for some.

@zentai I just mean that some remembers report things getting out of hand,affecting daily lives,relationships,all sorts. And that’s some out of a small community,how many would be from global population?

@helghast

If we are strictly talking about guys trying to stop having sessions without being able to, this would probably be similar to sex addition, maybe 5% ? Where it gets weird is when you start thinking about what could lead to sexual addiction in the first place, and if it would be different in this Super-O centric society... 

Obviously if there was a big, sudden, Super-O revolution tomorrow, the first few years would be rough and some people would experience addiction troubles, but we would learn how to solve this bit. I know what out of hands means in this context, it can be dealt with and would not be my main worry. 

@tbob you bring up an interesting point that I have no way of proving. Will anyone here say “I was a grade ‘A’ Arschloch until I had a super O” or better yet “I’m still an Arschloch”? Or can anyone prove cause and effect? I dunno. I had many relationship problems for years, and now they seem to be resolved.  My self-bettering to get where I am today included prostate orgasms, but it is hard for me to extract that from a slew of things I changed about myself over the last few years—unabashed love towards those I hold dear, honesty, egalitarianism between the sexes, etc. Does my new me create super Os, or do my super Os create the new me?

@zentai  Super O to the rescue, ha!

@helghast yes

@divine_o  I would suggest, you just recognized there were things in your life that needed changing and you set out to do it. Sounds like you were successful. Congrats. And you can Super O too. Lucky basturd. lol

Interesting question. I'm having a hard time trying to pin down things I'd attribute to the aneros specifically, since the time period overlaps with other kinds of introspection. It also overlaps with 10+ years of aging. What aneros success I've had, has also been very gradual and incremental over the years, so it's even less obvious what changes there might be.

One thing I think is true about being able to get yourself off properly, is the reduced desperation for sex. Or at least having it on a pedestal as the ultimate release, with everything else as a poor alternative or cheap imitation. Of course there are other aspects to sex (intimacy etc.), but I don't think it's too crass to acknowledge the physical need people have to "get off", and how often sex is primarily about that (hook up culture, etc.).
I noticed that perspective shift very early on. Some of the best orgasms of my life were alone in the dark, under the covers, with the aneros inside me.
I think a lot of single men aren't able to satisfy themselves properly, I certainly wasn't able to, before I learned to slow down and tune in to the slower-moving sensations.

A change I can definitely confirm is how my body responds to arousal, in the form of prostate horniness. It could be that I always had that physical reaction, but couldn't process it so distinctly... either way it feels very new.

There are other things I'm less certain about, that get way more personal and foggy, like feeling sensations that trigger emotions I can't make sense of. I've no way of knowing what changes might have taken place during that... there are some weird things like that, that I don't know what to make of.

@clenchy, thanks for your honest assessment.  Readers, if his account seems understated, it is no less important.  You have hit upon things I had not thought to mention.

Posted by: @clenchy

One thing I think is true about being able to get yourself off properly, is the reduced desperation for sex. Or at least having it on a pedestal as the ultimate release, with everything else as a poor alternative or cheap imitation.

I love this phrase, “being able to get yourself off properly”.  What a fool I used to be!  Now I see (in 2021)!  A sliver of getting off properly: releasing for ejaculatory orgasm as a choice.  Doing it wrong is like substituting the fast sugar of a candy bar for a meal just because you’re hungry, as if you knew not what a meal was.  I’m lazy at the moment to enumerate the lessons Aneros helped me discover, which make up the bulk of this understanding how to do it properly.  Further, in this knocking off of a pedestal, we transcend from reflexively satiating animal needs, all the while fully able to fully engage, as a choice.  Have the candy sometimes, as you wish.  But await your moment to take to the bed as banquet replete with great pleasure, and linger to sate the satyr within.  Solely solo need not this be, rather a gift to share with your partner.

Some of the best orgasms of my life were alone in the dark, under the covers, with the aneros inside me.

Same.

I think a lot of single men aren't able to satisfy themselves properly, I certainly wasn't able to, before I learned to slow down and tune in to the slower-moving sensations.

I think a lot of married men aren’t able to satisfy themselves properly, without their spouses, or with!  I agree about the contribution of slow down and tune in.

A change I can definitely confirm is how my body responds to arousal, in the form of prostate horniness. It could be that I always had that physical reaction, but couldn't process it so distinctly... either way it feels very new.

Thanks for bringing this up.  When it’s the beginnings of arousal, to me it is felt as “stirrings” a bit within the pelvis.  When it’s intense, it’s a persistent “buzz”.  It’s interesting to me, in my pre-Aneros, and earlier years, it seemed the only arousal was that which was the hard-on, on a hair-trigger, and the pelvic floor.  Now I can appreciate stirrings telegraphing where my body may be headed, where I might take it.  At first I thought, this is either getting older, Aneros less-than desirably de-emphasizing penis "importance"- or both!- but now I see that nothing’s wrong!

there are some weird things like that, that I don't know what to make of

Well post about it sometime if you'd like, and you can see if anyone else has felt similarly.  Cheers to your 10+ years of albeit older, yet much wiser and better positioned to make the most of all yet to come.

@clenchy 

Posted by: @clenchy

One thing I think is true about being able to get yourself off properly, is the reduced desperation for sex.

This is a cool take and very true. We have as much action now,but a bit less sex as there are so many other ways to get off now. A couple of ejaculations per month have also made them so much more special,and now that I’m used to it,I don’t miss them.

Posted by: @clenchy

Some of the best orgasms of my life were alone in the dark, under the covers, with the aneros inside me.

Other side of the coin for me. Some of my best o’s were directed by someone else. Giving that up to the wife was a huge part of letting go,at least for me anyways.