Bringing in your significant other early, before rewiring

After one year, I finally came out of the closet and told my wife about the aneros. I have not had a super O so certainly I am not completly rewired, but have seen many changes to my sessions over the almost year and half I have been at it. I am not expecting using it with my wife to bring about a super O - but it's just different. I don't use the progasm when I am with her (although It is my favorite) I felt it was too big to have in place during regular sex, what with all the flopping around and changing positions. I use the eupho when I am having sex with my wife.
She was very accepting about it, but I don't expect her to put it in me and sit back and stroke my nipples for a hour. I just go about regular sex and enjoy the additional pleasure. It doesn't mean I still don't use it on my own - which I do at every opportunity, I just enjoy the waves that sneak up on you during sex and the climax is always spectacular.

I don't expect it to help me rewire either. I guess I really want to have the rewiring over and done with, so I can enjoy the "additional waves" during sex. At the moment, even masturbation + Aneros isn't all that good.

I would still have solo sessions too.

I suppose waiting til I rewire is the best policy, or at least have regular pleasure from Aneros solo sessions.

After one year, I finally came out of the closet and told my wife about the aneros. I have not had a super O so certainly I am not completly rewired, but have seen many changes to my sessions over the almost year and half I have been at it.
I just go about regular sex and enjoy the additional pleasure. It doesn't mean I still don't use it on my own - which I do at every opportunity, I just enjoy the waves that sneak up on you during sex and the climax is always spectacular.

I think I am going to print off a few pages about the prostate today and bring them and the Helix to my girlfriends house and reveal all. I don't expect a super O, and won't tell her about all of its benefits, until I myself actually see them (alone).

Do you guys think its worth it even before rewiring? Thhn does. I would love to bring her in when I am rewired, but that could be another year, especially since I don't get time alone really.

It's 2.30pm now. By about 6.30pm, I will decide whether to bring her in or not, based on the replies I get here. OF COURSE, I will still focus on alone-self-rewiring.

I think I will have mini sessions with her, during foreplay, then use it during sex, and maybe after when she's asleep. It's better than one alone session every 2 weeks when tired, right? I find real life more arousing than porn, so it might help me rewire, right? ❓

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I am sure that, if I introduced her to it, she would be accepting (I once suggested to her where the male G spot was, and she didn't react too badly) and cooperating, as long as she herself didn't need to put her fingers anywhere.

Do you have any advice?

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Sure!

We didn't buy the Helix for the journey. I was totally ignorant of it's potential. A local toy shop sold it, solely on it's ability to stay in place during intercourse. We used it just for sex from Valentine's Day till two weeks ago when I stumbled on this website. My successful sales pitch for her to help with my "journey" will be a topic in a future blog.

Suggestion, regarding intercourse. If you are doing missionary, e-coli contamination is a hazard if you use a fluid lube. Early on, I found that contaminated ID Glide was trickling down my balls and onto my shaft. That was a show-stopper. (She's post-menopausal and is subject to potentially lethal bladder infections.)

I prefer fluid lubes with the Helix but we agree on no-missionary unless we plan it in advance and I use an alternate lube. A minute amount of Astroglide pre-lube with plenty of Crisco on the Helix is my current act (I'm adverse to Vaseline inside my bod.) Anti-bacterial Dawn detergent seems the best for getting the Crisco film off the Helix. Noted Shea Butter in this Forum and plan on getting some.

When we plan on using the Helix during sex, I don't insert in bed. I prep and insert before I shower and give my perineum a good cleaning with Dial before heading for the sack. (That might not be easy with the Progasm -- but, don't have to worry till after Father's Day).

I offer no clue on managing stim for an erection with the Helix in place -- I seldom get more than a chubby from prostate stim. I inject for an erection after we have foreplay well in progress. Trimix works the same, Helix or no.

Hope this has some usable ideas.

NuBe09

Sure!

We didn't buy the Helix for the journey. I was totally ignorant of it's potential. A local toy shop sold it, solely on it's ability to stay in place during intercourse. We used it just for sex from Valentine's Day till two weeks ago when I stumbled on this website. My successful sales pitch for her to help with my "journey" will be a topic in a future blog.

Suggestion, regarding intercourse. If you are doing missionary, e-coli contamination is a hazard if you use a fluid lube. Early on, I found that contaminated ID Glide was trickling down my balls and onto my shaft. That was a show-stopper. (She's post-menopausal and is subject to potentially lethal bladder infections.)

NuBe09

Wow. Even things I didnt think about in there - the ecoli/contaimination stuff.

So you just said you wanted prostate stim during sex and your gf/wife said: ok.

1) Does this aid pleasure during sex?
2) Does this damage the rewiring process, or not change it at all?

I have already voiced my opinion on this so I won't go into that
Here is something I have come to realize of late... my wife and I are both into giving and receiving a massage. I'm talking about each other, not going to a spa.
When I am giving her a massage and I use the eupho, I can enjoy all the wonderful pleasures that the eupho is giving me while she is enjoying all the wonderful pleasures my massage is giving her. It is always said here that mental stimulation in a major factor in aneros success. Well, running your hands all over your wife/gf oily, naked body is a real turn on for me. It's a real win-win
It's been going on two years for me and I can certainly say I am not rewired yet. How long will it be for you? Why wait that long?

This is from a "very married" perspective. I'm so far from the singles scene that I'd not hazard giving any upfront advice.

1. Aid pleasure during sex. Yes!!! The prostate is just another part of the total picture and we've mapped it into our relationship just as we mapped the g-spot and clit as separate stim-objects during foreplay. An occasional jab to the prostate is a nice punctuation mark during sex. My wife used handle 'tweaks' along with buttock pinches for a couple of months. After looking at the "journey," I've removed the handle from "my map." (the Aneros is only inside me during our mapped encounters, not during impromptu rolls in the hay). 🙂 My contractions are in my map but since they are hard for her to sense, I keep her informed about what I'm doing and when I want her to pick up where those leave off.
2. We started out by adding prostate-stim to our relationship as a couple. It will remain in that relationship until some strange turn of events where my wife asks otherwise. I do eventually want the MMO but the solo-scene is secondary to our love and our encounters as a couple. I think if I stay separately focused during either activity, I'll succeed in both. Important not to blurr things--this isn't about Gestalt.
Rather than thinking of this as a re-wiring, I prefer to think of it as just adding a couple of input ports and two new output ports to my brain and spinal cord then using solo sessions, fantasy and meditation to build the software that ties them together. Save for teen-age wet dreams, I've never "drifted" into an orgasm in my life. I'm a solid Type-A competitive guy that views ejaculation as an achievement. My wife is far better at fantasy, meditation and orgasm building than I. I'll lean on her for advice and counsel along this journey.
Thoughts:
It will be important though to focus on stim sources and keep the shared stuff separate, for the time being. I've got several thousand minutes hours of giving to my wife and as we approach MMOs she is willing return many of those minutes. (She knows far more about torso stim than do I. I suspect I'll be getting lessons about good nipple-stim when I grow to experience the effect.) Much of this will be solo on my part but I'd hope to bring most of it into our shared experience. We use foreplay maps to plan encounters which have new toys or new stim techniques. And we put the good results together on new sequenced maps.
I'm still pretty basic with the Aneros and just getting the first twinges and twitches. I've yet to complete a full instruction sheet sequence -- I tend to drift off and forget the details of the next recommended step. When I make it through the instructions I'll move on to mapping in the variations available in the Wiki and this Forum.
Aneros hasn't offered any campaign ribbons or trophies for he who finishes first. So, like , I'm in no hurry. Maybe a Super-O before I die!
If you've not used foreplay maps to expand or hone your routines, I recommend them. They might even be good for singles entering an established relationship. Google for . That will take you to Oprah's 'better life' area where there are mapping instructions and a link to download the .pdf file with printable maps. A couple will need two maps. Each map has a front and a back so you'll be mapping your stim-sequences onto four surfaces. Once you and g/f have your basic sequences mapped, this might be a good conversation tool to use to introduce the
Aneros into your couples routine.

NuBe09

Thanks for the posts. I don't have time to reply to each point at the moment, but I read all of your posts.

I am just here to say that I am going to bring my Helix to my girlfriend's tonight. I will downplay the Aneros, but state that is something that might help my situation (I told her I get no pleasure).