Anyone else found it harder to ejaculate?

Nope. Can cum for myself or my GF exactly when I want to..

I know exactly how you're feeling. I believe our rewiring has changed our focus to different orgasmic pleasures and it now takes a more deliberate change of focus now that we are rewired to be able to have both types of orgasms! I've found that nipple play gets me where I want to be! A tongue flicking my nipples is hugely orgasmic and gets me harder than Chinese mathematics!

TG

Thanks Theme-gasm. I've never been as hard as Chinese mathematics whatever that is but I get as hard as anyone I know. Nipples used to be wired to my penis, now they're wired to my prostate. I've noticed that contracting my cremaster muscle seems to lead to ejaculation, a trick I just discovered. But maybe I've been focussing too much on the mechanics and just not letting go.

See, Disney movie songs really are meant to help Aneros users...Let it go...Let it go...

TG

I've noticed that contracting my cremaster muscle seems to lead to ejaculation, a trick I just discovered.

Still mystified over how people can contract the cremaster muscle. I can't even feel or locate it.As for ejaculation, it's mostly fine for me. My dick is still wired as such that once good sensations get going, I jizz.

@euphemistic Yep I'm with you. I've become so non penis centered that when I am, it takes much longer to get to an ejaculation. Can be frustrating when a quicky is the order of the day 😉 Other than the length of time, the results are more intense and what happens outside of ejaculation now for me is SO INTENSE that I'm not sure I need to get back to being able to cum in sort order.

Yeah, I find myself wondering if being multi orgasmic and single is a good thing or even if the penis was built to fuck for hours. Our closest ancestors ejaculate after a few seconds. So 5 to 10 minutes is already stretching it considering where we've come from. I like to dry orgasm while jerking off but I know there's a price to be paid for jerking off longer than an hour and my glans is often swollen even the next day when I do this.
But it's voluntary, I could ejaculate in

@Ehm --- Your experience is similar to mine...minus the hash! Jerking off is much more intense, and with nipples involved, beating my meat is absolutely exquisite!

TG

Ehm said "I think I need to ejaculate as well coz being multi orgasmic that's the only way I can stop jerking off" You put the"multi" back in multi-orgasmic! 🙂

I have no problem with dry orgasms and edging for a long time now. And ejaculation when it finally occurs is much more intentional and whole body. I feel my body stiffen to the point that my thighs hurt until it stops.

The problem for me is that it is so much pleasure that I get caught up in it and when I want to ejaculate, I have to use visualization and muscle control. I'm just learning the muscle control of the cremaster which seems to lead me to an ejaculation in solo practice but I don't have the sequence down yet. And I use visualization of a rainbow of colorful energy streaming up my body slowly to the outside world. I sometimes have HFWOs this way.

So the sequence for me is after I'm fully aroused, contract my anus, BC muscle around the prostate, the PC and cremaster muscles, while visualizing. It takes a while to get to this point but it feels wonderful. An unfortunate side effect is it's not practical to do with a partner for me right now as it takes too long.

I guess I sound like I'm complaining about too much of a good thing. I need to learn how to change gears so to speak and focus on my partner. 🙂

I have the same issue and I think of it more as a glass half full. I have a really hard time cumming with my girlfriend, but she always gets her satisfaction and I feel like a stud being able to go on almost perpetually. I chalk that up as a positive! It might be frustrating if I wasn't able to get release fairly easy when masturbating, but I don't mind this arrangement.

Mkts that makes sense. I need someone with patience and time and appreciation for lots of foreplay and arousal

At age 75 and having been on the Aneros journey for well over five years, I have found just this year that, not only is it more difficult to have an ejaculation, but it is also harder to get and maintain an erection. I can't recall when I last had a real morning wood. BTW, before you ask, I have tried Viagra (dreadful side effects), Cialis (doesn't often work these days) and Levitra (only once and it failed).

OTOH, my wife enjoys my attentions as much as ever and it is great to be able still to have sex together even though intercourse seems to be rare these days. She even asked me a couple of days ago, whether I thought that my Aneros activities might be the cause of the problem. I wasn't sure how to answer that one.

Anyone have any ideas?

Pommie, have you been enjoying your anerosing? Have dry orgasms or anerosless? I assume you have since you've been doing it for a while. That's part of my problem I think, I enjoy the internal pleasure too much and get distracted from the traditional orgasms. I still get super hard and can ejaculate when i want but it takes longer because it feels so good. I don't mind when I'm by myself but it's embarassing after a while when I'm with a partner. My erection comes and goes too. I'm 67 yo. I used to have the opposite problem, ejaculating too quickly. I forgot about viagra, I will try that, I don't get side effects, just effects 🙂

Odd that this should have happened to you just this year. What else has happened recently that you might associate with this? It became a"problem" for me when I became sexually active recently and couldn't help but notice it. I'm hoping that this is just a phase that we're going through on our journey. There's all kinds of neuromuscular and hormonal changes going on. I feel very different from when I began physically, emotionally, energetically, mentally.

I assume you've talked with your doctor or a urologist if you have a script for the erection pills.

@euphemistic,Thanks for your interest! Haven't had (what I would describe as) a super-O for about a couple of months but still have three or four sessions each week. I'm wondering if perhaps I am just becoming desensitised and need a break. Even A-less sessions are not as common as they were.

At least you seem to be able to summon up an erection when you need one. I simply can't remember when I last had one. My last visit to my doctor resulted in a prescription for Levitra but I'm convinced that that's not working.

Co-incidentally, the problem seemed to surface fully on our 50th wedding anniversary (in January), but I can't think of any obvious cause. Perhaps it is just hormonal.

At age 65 I'm still able to have a reliable erection when I masturbate and with varying results during intercourse. I've also discovered that when I masturbate, sometimes I'm able to have a very pleasurable session just stimulating the glans and frenulum. My penis does not get erect when I do this and it feels really good! If I do it long enough...maybe for 30 minutes or so...I have several prostate orgasms without ejaculating. It kinda feels like an Aneros dry orgasm. Eventually my heart beat starts to race and I feel an ejaculation starting to take shape...if I stop and start this procedure I have lasted for almost an hour without ejaculation. When I give in and do finally ejaculate, my penis is still very flaccid and the semen just sort of dribbles out like the faucet has been opened. I don't try to contract any pelvic muscles as I watch the semen flow and it is highly pleasurable from both a visual and physical standpoint. I'm not sure if this is edging because I never get erect when doing this and I really never get that feeling of totally going I've the edge like one does with a traditional ejaculatory orgasm. It's making me horny right now just thinking about it!

Jaxsun 🙂

I do that thing with my frenulum too only I'm hard. The orgasms are wonderful aren't they. If I don't approach the edge through muscle control I get the overflow slow lava eruption that you describe. It's nice and doesn't seem to give me a refractory. lots of precum from doing this too. thr longer I do this, the easier it gets and the more relaxed I feel and it's kind of like an erotic trance. really nice.

Pommie curious about the anniversary association.