An arousal altered state

@neros and @crimsonwolf have written some really great posts recently. They are both similar in focusing primarily on relaxation and stoking arousal, in contrast to contraction techniques. They eschew the "active" model, which we use when we jerk off, in favor of the "passive" model of letting arousal grow on its own.

It is clear that for some guys contraction techniques work. We have ample reports of success that way on the forum, though I have never been among them. All my access to male multiple orgasm has been through the relaxation and arousal path.


For me, the only way I can really take off is if I bring myself into an arousal altered state. This means that all my consciousness is present in my arousal, and that my sexual thoughts take on a sense of encompassing reality. I most readily access this through weed, in which case I will enter a state where my sexual fantasies become as real as life. But I consider that kind of cheating, and can also do it without weed, just less intense.


There are many ways to get there, and @neros and @crimsonwolf have described their ways.


Last night I took another path that I think is worth describing. This will work best for guys who are already able to get pleasure waves or orgasms from their prostate/rectum/anus. But even newbies will get a lot out of it exploring it


To do this you have to leave your pride at the door.


Basically... make love to yourself. Start out by slowly tracing your fingers through your hair, and gently on your face. Go very slowly, let yourself be seduced by your fingers as though they belonged to your perfect partner. Let your hands slowly move to your chest, or your arms or your neck or shoulder. Whatever areas of your body would be the most tantalizing, that your ideal lover would slowly discover, because they know just how to increment your arousal, that is where they will go.


Just like @neros and @crimsonwolf advise in their techniques, here, too, you must go super slowly, savor every feeling. Only advance into areas of your body that are ready to be touched.... your lover has an uncanny ability to sense just that spot... your thigh, your foot, your ear, that will bring you one small teeny bit more arousal.


Recognize the real feeling of arousal. You need to feel a swooning feeling, just like you would if a lover you are hot for touched you.


Try to avoid contractions, as they can actually snuff arousal. If your body really needs to contract in response to the arousal, if it does it all by itself, then it will probably be a mild, loving contraction that will increase arousal, rather than a desperate reaching contraction.


If you relax enough and let go, your hands will go exactly to the spot your body wants them to go to, that next spot that wants touching. Let your hands and body go, and act on their own. Your body will respond by moving toward them, wanting them. Together they will find their way to arousal. You are just passively there to experience it.


Barely if ever touch your genitals. Your pubic hair, yes, maybe even your scrotum, oh so gently, brushing with your finger tips.


Forget that your hands belong to you. Just experience their caresses. Let your arms hug you.


After a while you'll find that your arousal is such that your body wants to play a role. It is ready. It will want to spread its legs, push its genitals/ass towards its lover, move towards bringing that lover into the excitement of its ass and genitals. Your ass might start squirming on the bed or humping because it is ready, was made ready by the seduction.


Last night, when I was soooo ready, i took out my Therawand. To get me even more ready for penetration, my hands took the wand handle and lightly traced its tip all around.... it was absolutely my lover's tongue, dabbling me everywhere, so eager to get me hotter, to get me needing penetration.


Finally I lubed up the therawand bulbed side and inserted it. Absolute magic. My ass/vagina made love to the wand, exquisite.


Here is a reminder link to the therawand. I really hope some other guys try it and report on their experience. It is now my favorite tool. The long part that remains outside my rectum stimulates my crack or thighs in ways the aneros can't and is amazing. Plus, the internal part is much softer feeling than the aneros. Note: I use it hands free just like the aneros. Do not use it with hard manual pressure, or damage might result.


http://www.therawand.com/product/premium-therawand/


darwin