AM I doing this wrong

Most important thing is to relax, and I mean R-E-L-A-X. When you are fully relaxed, you will feel it go deeper, and more than likely it will hit the spot.

Take a nap; being able to relax and let it do its thing without conscious input, yet being aware of what's going on is important. The easiest way to get it to do what it's supposed to do is to doze off; don't worry, if it goes anywhere near orgasmic, you'll most certainly be awakened and won't miss it.

Being conscious or semi-conscious are the early steps to getting to the Super-O; once it starts doing things, just lay there and concentrate on what you're feeling and listen to that small, quiet inner voice and do what it tells you. Things should progress from there.

ty all for the comments ill try that, but when it goes in should it touch my prostate i dont even get a tingle

It probably is but imagine its a voice calling you in the dark from a long way away. You need to listen very carefully. If you make a noise or run towards where you think it is you'll probably miss it. You need to be very relaxed so you don't make any noise & listen for it very carefully. When you can hear it louder it might be tempting to again run towards it but you need to resist, relax & listen more. Jas 🙂