Pegging

No apology necessary. Anal play takes a lot of trust. But the giver needs to know what the hell they are doing - and far too many don't (both genders). For women who are new to pegging, I wrote this article about male ass play as a precursor to pegging. I would love to see all couples do this instead of jumping into things too fast.

Theres a new game at Hogwarts that all the wizards are playing! Hermione and her girlfriends love to watch and then peg the boys all night long

braveneworld;

Yikes! those benches look more like instruments of torture than pleasure. The non-BDSM pegging erotica easily found on the Web is sexier.

Cheers,

Dave

Hey Linda,
Hope things worked out. I was nervous about bringing up the subject with my wife and asked her to visit the web sites like Aneros to look at the facts. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Anal goes both ways as does oral and hand jobs. Now she pegs me and sex is awesome.

Good luck

From a chat session yesterday (mostly centered around pegging) :

Guest1: I like the look of all models, but my eyes feast on the EVI. Does anyone know if this model would be of benefit to male anatomy?
rook: ‹@Guest1› we have one or two guys who have played it anally... U might ask @artform
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› i have used the GSpot stimulator side of my ex-wife's strapless "the Share"... Loved it!... That was much bigger than a prostate stim though
Guest1: ‹@Canacan› Hmmm ! That has piqued my curiosty.
Guest1: ‹@Guest1› Well bigger is my objective, while I appreciate the smaller dimensions I believe men could accommodate a slightly larger, girthie model. Does anyone else agree?
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› go for it, this thing is amazing... And when inserted that way you get two dicks (one of which permanently hard) imagine the countless possibilities... Yes I double penetrated my wife alone with my dick and prostate ... How does that sound ? (lol) (feels great for one)
Guest1: ‹@Canacan› And you say it's called a "Share"
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› Share by Fun Factory... I'll give you a link
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› Aneros goal is to be subtle... This is a different game, different goal, different pleasure... The Aneros will teach you how to enjoy, but then you can enjoy so many things
rook: ‹@Guest1› shape gets important when you are lubing up for something large. The EVI is a slippery toy when it's lubed and it's, "difficult to get a handle on" if there's any resistance ... my only experience is doing a Vaginal insertion when I can get a couple of fingers inside to guide it. Stretching out a sphincter without a speculum wud be more challenging.
Guest1: ‹@Canacan› You are right, I do enjoy John Dory wrapper in filo and also Haute Brion 57
rook: ‹@Guest1› ‹@rook› Share carries excellent scores from a couple of our pegging enthusiasts (smile)
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› http://www.funfactoryusa.com/product_codes/24438
Canacan: isnt it beautiful ?
Guest1: ‹@Canacan› Thank you very much.
varmint: Hello riders!
Canacan: ‹@rook› oh there are reports of share using here ?
Canacan: ‹@rook› definitely would like to read them
rook: ‹@Canacan› iirc, in the Pegging thread (gigantic)... check for Share posts by Ten_s_Nut and Love_is
cj187: hi guys
rook: ‹@Canacan› our 'regular' pegging cadre is limited ... only a couple of dozen guys.
Canacan: ‹@Guest1› ‹@rook› I'll buy a new one only when I am sure I am in a couple were both of us can orgasm from it... Meaning I for one am not fully ready yet
Canacan: ‹@rook› strapless pegging is AMAZING ! (You don't know what you are missing)
rook: ‹@Canacan› might be good to touch base with Ten_s_nut. He has had to modify more than one and has posted some specific design deficiencies in a couple of tools
AneRico: I recently purchased a strap on dildo. Haven't been able to use it yet. (sad)
Guest1: Pegging, just the name and what springs to mind when thinking about it, is relaxing in and of itself. The action, the submission of man upon the sheets, reversed and do-able, the forbidden secret of it all and the smile it must bring. Oh Peggy Sue where are you?
rook: ‹@Canacan› Wife is totally a missionary position gal. No pegging (yet) here. She gloves to 'saw' me with a dildo. Am consideriing adding a handle to an Aneros... perhaps Maximus.
rook: think pegging would offer more personal interaction/intercommunicaition and less 'overthrusting' than does this elementary "sawing"
Canacan: ‹@rook› let her do you missionary then (lol) it's the best position anyway (well knees up and clenching her bottom with crossed feet even better)
varmint: Woah! The imagery!
Canacan: ‹@rook› strapless will stimulate her g spot ... If she is any good at it she will enjoy a lot
rook: ‹@Canacan› woman really hates topping. We haven't done cowgirl in years (many years).
Canacan: ‹@varmint› see why I don't care for porn... What they do is a joke compared to real life
Canacan: ‹@rook› then you do cowboy (lol)
rook: verily (lol)
varmint: Oh man!
varmint: Ohh! Reminds me of those few times where wife is so horny she s me
Guest1: ‹@Canacan› Ever since I first laid loin on a woman, nude and in missionary, legs raised to expand the Volvo, I would always end each coitus with a wet finger lube in Vagie-oil deep into her anus, this would always, always bring her to ecstatic orgasm that went on forever. I was envious of her capacity to extend her feeling of delight, and I have been led to believe that Aneros, when mastered can bring the same extended orgasms to men. Is there any truth to this?
varmint: ‹@Guest1› Yes there is. Ability to revel in the great pleasure your body has to offer!
varmint: Wouldn't you know I pop into chat when my #1 fantasy is being discussed!
rook: ‹@Guest1› I think so. We've been using an Aneros during sex for over 5 years. Started with a Helix then 'standardizd' on an SGX for me.
Canacan: ‹@varmint› isn't the world perfect ? (lol)
varmint: ‹@Canacan› and erotic!
Canacan: ‹@varmint› damn right it is ! (big smile)
Canacan: ‹@varmint› let me see if I can find you some videos ... They are of girl on girl action but you can easily transpose (wink)
varmint: No needs, bit of a pegging connoisseur from my 'research' You're right about the strapless ones like Feeldoe, so damn sexy to think of wife ing me with her own cock
Canacan: ‹@varmint› http://www.youporn.com/watch/8351659/office-lady-in-black-pantyhose-rides-strapon/
Canacan: The feeldoe is much less sexy than the Share (and also focuses on clitoris instead of Gspot)
varmint: ‹@Canacan› Good to know! Been going on aesthetics alone
Canacan: ‹@varmint› aesthetics are damn important... They are the big turn on for me here
varmint: All hot and bothered here!
Canacan: ‹@varmint› http://xhamster.com/movies/1131131/blonde_bottom_begs_for_a_feeldoe_fuck..html
Canacan: now tell me the money shots in the end aren't a big turn on.... I can tell you seeing this pink thing (ours was pink) like it was grown from my girls vagina WOW... Balls are so unaesthetic in comparison... The share in a girl is gorgeous
varmint: So hard, leaking and ass burning from these vids
Canacan: ‹@varmint› next time... Do yourself a favor : ... Get pegged (lol)
varmint: ‹@Canacan› Working on it. Wife fingers and sometimes licks a little bit, but taking sometime to get here comfortable with the idea
Canacan: ‹@varmint› you can also reverse the roles (a second time) insert the vaginal part in your ass (with lube and stretching) and do her the way she did you
varmint: Wow! Picture having two cocks...
Canacan: ‹@varmint› it is amazing... And even stroking the second one massages your p-spot
Canacan: i have someday to do a threesome where I *** a girl with the ass dick while an other one is riding my real cock... Oh oh so many possibilities... Too bad I am of the sentimental monogamous type
varmint: ‹@Canacan› Mmm.....
Canacan: ‹@varmint› this Share thing is not perfect it has its flaws... But if I was in couple again I'd buy a new one right away... So erotic... I guess I miss my second cock
varmint: OMG! Autos
Canacan: Man do porn filmmakers lack both imagination and taste !
euphemistic: ‹@Canacan› yes
euphemistic: ‹@varmint› I'm picturing that right now
varmint: One Super down!! Soaked in sweat and precum
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› yeah I know... And talk about gay. Gay videos are so poorly directed... Bah
euphemistic: ‹@Canacan› yes. 99.9 percent are
euphemistic: every once in a while I find one that is very intimate and rings true
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› yes I think straight and lesbian tend to be a little better...
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› well everyone can do good by mistake sometimes (lol)
varmint: Monkeys and typewriters
euphemistic: I wasn't impressed with straight porn. before I came out, I went to a lot of that
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› after all it is the same with straight porn... The best usually are unintentional
euphemistic: I don't know about lesbian porn
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› and they never compare with real life (big smile)
euphemistic: yes, sigh
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› hey lesbian porn can be good... Ask varmint (wink)
varmint: ‹@Canacan› (big smile)
Canacan: This is one of the best porn video I have seen (hey wait!... We don't even see a thing (lol)) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZ4IQBD6TDw
varmint: Oh! Still going
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› tell me what you think ...
euphemistic: ‹@Canacan› that IS hot the way she describes it
euphemistic: ‹@Canacan› did you see the actual video?
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› yes I did... had to (lol)
euphemistic: made me envious... of her... (lol)
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› made me envious too... It is part of what got me into the Share and Aneros... Not envious anymore now... More like complicit look exchange with her "yeah girl, totally know, but don't spread our secrets"
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› or course dp is all about the girls ... Who would want to be the guy ? (lol)
euphemistic: IDK but I imagine a lot of guys... no?
Canacan: ‹@euphemistic› guys fantasize about the pleasure they give girls... Or that is my guess
varmint: ‹@Canacan› Calmed down enough to watch the video. Asa is one of my favs, smart and so erotic

@Canacan - Thank you for posting this chat log. I'd like to clear up some misconceptions though. Most women that want to peg with a "strapless" double dildo need a double dildo compatible harness to keep it in her during the act. Typically the anal muscles in the man are stronger than the vaginal muscles in a woman. There are some documented exceptions to this, but they are the extreme minority.

"Canacan: The feeldoe is much less sexy than the Share (and also focuses on clitoris instead of Gspot"

While the much less sexy part is a matter of opinion and taste, it is incorrect to state that the Feeldoe does not focus on the G-spot. The bulb, or pony end of the Feeldoe/Realdoe, Fun Factory Share line, and Happy Valley Silicone Tango all target the woman's G-spot. Even ones like the Vixen Creations Nexus, Vamp Silicone Duetto, BS is Nice Olga, and Wet For Her Four may stimulate the G-Spot even though they don't seem to be specifically designed for that in the same way the former three are. It's just that the Feeldoe and Tango also have clitoral ridges and optional vibrator in case a the woman wants or needs that. I've actually played with a woman with her Feeldoe Classic (no vibrator) inside her with a harness holding it in. She orgasmed multiple times over and over just from the G-spot stimulation of the bulb. She specifically showed me how she liked me to move the shaft via my hand, to give her the stimulation she wanted. Which was to push and pull on the shaft perpendicular to her body with the clitoral ridges not touching her vulva or clitoris.

That being said, which double dildo feels comfortable and pleasurable to a woman or man in pegging depends a lot on body geometry and sexual stimulation preferences. Which user Ten_s_nut discovered with his wife. This is not uncommon. Though the extent he went through to make it work for her via customizing the toys is. Many couples go through a few tries of different dildo and harness models until they find one that they both like.

For myself, I own both the Feeldoe More and Fun Factory Share. They both look sexy on a woman, but the Share just doesn't work well for me. The silicone is too soft and floppy and doesn't stimulate my prostate very well. I don't like the shape of the shaft with how it gets larger towards the bulb end. And the matte finish of the silicone irritates my anus. Which the latter can be fixed with a condom over it, but I feel like I shouldn't have to do that for a high quality toy. The Feeldoe More does a much better job with having firmer silicone, smooth finish, larger diameter shaft and more pronounced head, and a shaft that slightly tapers towards the bulb end. These all give me much better stimulation and a better experience. These are all sexual stimulation preferences that are specific to me. Each person and/or couple has to figure out what works for them.

Edit: Here's some links that people might find helpful.

http://pegging101.com/

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/08/double-ended-dildos/

@Love_is thank you for the clarification !

Thanks Love_is and Canacan for these posts!!

Having great results for me with Realdoe Slim, and gently introducing with her verbally before getting action testing agreement....

onward and upward all

artform

Nice post on Pegging. My wife uses the Share on me and it is wonderful! I experienced multiple O's the last time we had fun with it. She has no problem holding the share in without a harness. It just took some practice. She has some STRONG PC muscles. Good for me! 😉 It takes me a while to be able to fit the bulb end in to do DP with her though.. I have to work up to it. Thanks to the aneros, I have been opened up to a new world!

Gents;

Maybe 1 in 25 (I'm guessing) women can hold their end of the double dildo without a harness. I wish my wife could. The only way we can avoid the harness is if I ride cowboy and she keeps her legs together, tightly. Although that works for me, she doesn't like the position because the bulb doesn't hit the right spot.

Peg on, dudes.

Dave

ALWAYS USED A HARNESS AND NO COMPLAINTS Order a new toy http://www.amazon.com/Fetish-Fantasy-Series-Vibrating-Delight/dp/B00GNDD3PM/ref=pd_rhf_se_p_imgnr_12

I'm a single straight male, never given much thought to the notion of pegging. I've always been mildly curious about anal play, more so in giving than in receiving. Since I started using the aneros devices my perspectives have changed quite a bit. Recently after some hugely successful anal orgasms i've decided that i'm very interested in the notion of pegging. I saw a video that was shared of a couple engaged in pegging and it looked extremely pleasurable, as I imagined myself in the guys position.

Its an exciting prospect, though perhaps a little off in the distance for me. I'm actually a virgin, saving myself for marriage. Some people may think otherwise, but personally I want to wait and share every sexual experience with my (future) one and only. I feel like my experiences with the aneros are preparing me in a good way for those.

Hello, musicmaker.

Good luck finding a wife. You might want to discuss your sexual inclinations before you get hitched. Don't assume she'll go along with anything just because she loves you.

Cheers,

Dave

heh, thanks Dave. I'm sure stuff like that will be discussed in due time. Although those kind of sexual inclinations wouldn't ultimately be a deal breaker for me. If she was a good match for me in every way but felt differently about certain sexual practices I don't think i'd call it off just for that, haha. I think its important to be prepared for the notion that your spouse may not (or never) care to partake in your exploits and to accept that. A good marriage isn't just about sex.

All that being said, I feel like the kind of wife i'm looking for is an adventurous type in all facets of life. Which would lead me to believe that she may also be adventurous in the bedroom as well. Who knows. Time will tell.

Cheers!

@musicmaker86
If you are not sexually compatible with a woman DO NOT MARRY HER! A good marriage requires good sex.

@musicmaker86
If you are not sexually compatible with a woman DO NOT MARRY HER! A good marriage requires good sex.

Quoted for truth.

Really @musicmaker86 what you said is backwards.
This is the most important thing.
Sure it is not only about sex... But if sex compatibility is bad then it is no use even asking about the rest.

I can't speak from experience, since I am neither married nor have I actually ever had sex. But I do believe in saving myself for marriage. Sure this might limit my knowledge on our sexual compatibility. Especially if, like me, she is also a virgin. But to this, I also believe that this is what makes for a good coupling. Discovering each others bodies and desires together. I also believe that if we are compatible in multiple ways before sex is involved, odds are (for the most part) we will likely be compatible sexually as well. Alternatively if we are incompatible sexually, it is probable that there will be other incompatibilities that would arise and nullify the relationship long before sex would even be brought up. This is just my personal philosophy. Its not for everybody, but its what I believe and what I adhere to.

Cheers!

@musicmaker86
Your idealism will ultimately be your demise.

@musicmaker86, i think i see what your saying. Discovering each other is amazing! Learning about each other. Most women are level headed and will understand if you explain something clearly and in a way they can understand. But communication is key. Can't stress that enough. Alot of people, myself included, bitch and moan about wives who will not participate in things they like, but I bet most have not even broached the subject, they are too chicken, again myself included LOL. Me and my wife have lost our intimacy after having children, its both our faults, but we can get it back, it will just take time, effort, and communication. I also wanted to say I think its cool your waiting for marriage, nothing wrong with, nothing at all. Stick to your guns if its what you believe in. Good Luck buddy!

Hey, I waited and next month is our 30th anniversary. So, I guess it worked for me! 🙂

brine

@musicmaker86, i think i see what your saying. Discovering each other is amazing! Learning about each other. Most women are level headed and will understand if you explain something clearly and in a way they can understand. But communication is key. Can't stress that enough. Alot of people, myself included, bitch and moan about wives who will not participate in things they like, but I bet most have not even broached the subject, they are too chicken, again myself included LOL. Me and my wife have lost our intimacy after having children, its both our faults, but we can get it back, it will just take time, effort, and communication. I also wanted to say I think its cool your waiting for marriage, nothing wrong with, nothing at all. Stick to your guns if its what you believe in. Good Luck buddy!

Thanks man. I appreciate you sharing your experiences and advice. And thanks for the encouragement.

Hey, I waited and next month is our 30th anniversary. So, I guess it worked for me! 🙂

brine

That's wonderful to hear man! Your experience is an encouragement to myself and others i'm sure!

musicmaker86,

Thank you. The best to you, my friend.

brine

Since I try to stay on topic....I didnt vote because they didnt have a HELL YES I WANT TO PEG HIM!!! option....oh well...so is the world. I find this topic to be one of my favorites..and I see I am not in the minority as far as that.

@Pspotsquirter...are you speaking of him saving himself for marriage??? Or are you speaking of not making sure they are compatible.

@musicmaker86 there is nothing wrong with learning your mate. My advice is make sure she is OPEN minded. If she is and loves you as deeply as she can...then she will try what you want at least once. Now whether she will like it or not I have no clue. Be ready if she doesnt like the main things you do...thats something that may be a hurdle. However being incompatible sexually does not mean you will have other signs....however if you are willing to live with a horrible sex life, which lots of men do, then thats you. Think of it this way their were men I had GREAT sex with and we had nothing else going for us...it can be the opposite as well....its called friendship. However make sure you NEVER complain about it because thats what you signed up for. Take @ten_s_nut advice it is golden....i tell all people get it out there first that way there are no problems down the line with well...i didnt know...or i didnt sign on for this or that....if you told them they know.

I wanted to throw in I'm not telling you not to wait for marriage to have sex. I admire that immensely, if I had to do it over again I would have waited as all the other guys were pointless fucks....live and learn i guess.

@devajones

I would not recommend anyone saving themselves for marriage. And he should definitely make sure they are compatible sexually, as well as in other areas.

@devajones Thanks for your thoughts on the matter. I think some people may call me optimistic but I don't concern myself with whether or not my future wife and I will be "sexually compatible". Personally I believe that its not a state that we exist within and we're merely hoping that we're two puzzle pieces that will fit together, but rather I think its a journey that two people start out on and travel together; learning about what each other likes and dislikes. For instance I've heard many a story wherein one spouse wants to do something new in bed and the other is completely opposed to it, but eventually the opposing one consents and discovers not only that its not what they thought it was but that they enjoy it a lot. Upon first glance one might have assumed they were sexually incompatible, but time proved differently.

For me its also got a lot to do with mutual enjoyment; if I wanted to try something new but she didn't enjoy it or get any pleasure from it, it would severely diminish the pleasure in it for me. I don't think discussing things beforehand would be a problem, but I think that it may prematurely lead you to believe something that may, and most likely will, change in the future. Just because she says she's not interested in something at the time doesn't mean she won't change her mind later.

@Pspotsquirter Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but mine definitely disagrees with yours. I think sexual discovery, when it involves two people, should be done between two people and two people alone. If I were to engage in sexual activity with numerous partners before marriage I would be discovering things that I liked, sure, but not with my wife. So then I discover that i like something with a partner that also enjoys it, only to find that my wife later on does not enjoy it. So then I am resentful towards my wife because I had another partner who WAS willing. Then I am comparing my sexual experience with her to my wife. Then my wife feels inferior to a prior partner. I do not think this breeds healthy relations for a good marriage. Again, just my thoughts and opinions.

Cheers!

musicmaker;

There's nothing at all wrong about your approaches to matrimony, premarital sex, etc. I didn't mean to imply by my post that there was. Some of us took a different path, and there's nothing wrong with that either. Once again, I wish you the best of luck in finding "The One."

Cheers,

Dave

@Pspotsquirter...how did that approach work for you???

Marriage doesn't survive on sex alone nor can it really survive without it. Pegging shouldn't be a deal breaker but communication can yield so wild times. Many women in college have been pegged by another female

musicmaker;

There's nothing at all wrong about your approaches to matrimony, premarital sex, etc. I didn't mean to imply by my post that there was. Some of us took a different path, and there's nothing wrong with that either. Once again, I wish you the best of luck in finding "The One."

Cheers,

Dave

No problem man, I didn't assume you were implying anything. Thanks for the great advice and encouragement. Cheers!