Pegging

Wow, what a great testament for open communication. I'll bet it took time and patience on your part. You have opened a new and mutually exciting chapter in your relationship.

Xileh

Congrats, rook!

I know you've been trying to get this going for some time. Years? Step by step, you'll get there.

Cheers,

Dave

What a great post rook! And congratulations! Hope you two go the next step and she straps one on for you. 🙂

rook - this just warms my heart to hear about couples communicating about sex and the resulting pleasures and discoveries. The further down this path of pegging I go it becomes ever more apparent to me that communication is the key, sexually. I love hearing stories like yours.

There are so many couples out there who never talk about sex..in fact they only talk about it when it's not working. That's just sad. Think of how much better sex could be if we all talked about it with our partners!

Ruby

Hey everyone,
I apologize for my absence. I've been a tad too busy, lately. Hope you are all well and either happily getting pegged or perhaps getting closer to that goal each and every day.

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Also - I bring news of a gorgeous new strap-on harness:

They are made by Tantus and not quite on the shelves yet but hopefully....for Halloween?? This is their Connoisseur line and I can't wait to see what they will come up with next!

Hope you are all well!
Ruby

I cannot see the picture; is something wrong, or is it just me?

I can't see it either.I assumed this was because I'm using an Apple Mac!

Sorry guys - don't know what happened (maybe I broke the rules? And if I did someone please tell me!)
http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2013/08/look-whats-coming/

Hello, Ruby.

Posting a pic in a thread here is usually done by using the "Attach a file" feature. It seems to be working. (double click on the image and it runs as an animated gif.)

Cheers,

Dave

I'd like to get pegged because frankly one of my biggest fantasies is to lay back (or forward or whatever) and experience nothing but the anal pleasure that comes from something big and firm moving back and forth. It's heartwarming to hear that people who were skeptical that their partners would ever agree to peg them have managed to get to "yes."

I still don't think I'd get my wife to say "yes," though.

Hello, deep.

I never expected my wife would go for pegging either. But, after getting her involved in my Aneros sessions, she seemed more likely to agree, and she did. The process was discussed way up in this thread somewhere.

The best approaches are explained by Ruby Ryder, here:
http://peggingparadise.com/blog/

Good luck,

Dave

Deep - The three main things to remember are communication, patience and information. I did write an article called "Convincing Her to Try It" with all the various approaches and when to use them. It will help you avoid the pitfalls. (Thanks for the shout out, Dave) That is the fantasy of many men is to lay back and receive pleasure through pegging....

I have absolutely no idea why a straight man would want a woman to f**k him with a plastic penis when there's lots of men willing and able to do that with the real thing. Seriously, would someone summarize how a woman acting like a man can give pleasure to men who would never think of having sex with a man. I get the submissive piece for the man I think and I can imagine how it might turn on a woman to make a man submissive. I have no clue what's going on with pegging and I want to understand because so many men here seem into pegging. But I don't want to wade through the 10 pages of this thread in the hope of finding an answer.

There are ways for you to ask and receive answers to your questions without being judgmental. This thread has the highest posting count of any current thread and one of the highest viewing rates indicating the high interest level. Asking in a respectful manner will get you the answers you seek and supports the entire community.

You might consider that rather than submission, or dominance, or role switching, some may be just enjoying the full erotic potential of both partners. It can be just that simple.

Xileh

Here is a summarization for your edification:

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thank you Ruby Ryder and Xileh, for your responses but II really didn't mean to be disrespectful or judgmental in asking my questions and was just trying to be light in the way I asked them (quess it didn't work). I guess my question was poorly phrased.

However, you really didn't answer my questions as I knew the information that you gave me already and was really asking something else. I'm gay and really don't understand straight men's attraction to women in general (well maybe a little), never mind what men see in pegging so I asked an honest question.Ruby, I looked at http://pegging101.com/do-women-love-pegging/, and got an idea why women love pegging. I guess what I was really asking is why do men love pegging. Still looking for an answer to that question. I wanted to know more about the erotic fantasies that energize pegging for men rather than the mechanics. I know about prostate stimulation and the pleasure that gives but a big part of the pleasure, maybe especially with pegging, is the fantasy component. I'm clueless about that. And to my mind, pegging looks like being f**ked by a man which I can relate to, so my confusion is natural.

Maybe it's one of those things where "you just had to be there", like asking a gay man why he's turned on by another man (which is a question I used to get before it became politically incorrect to ask it). It's such an intimate question and so basic to our nature that it's difficult to even understand why someone is asking it. I guess I'm interested in everything about men and what makes us tick. Thus, the question.

If this response comes off as disrespectful too, just ignore it and I won't ask again. I'm sorry about any offense I caused.

@euphemistic - thank you for replying, misunderstandings happen. I apologize for reading your post incorrectly, I enjoy your other posts and look forward to them. I have learned so much from our gay members that I have changed my view on great many topics.

I think you have a very good question. I think that for whatever the reason the individual male attraction to pegging is, men do have to allow themselves to become vulnerable so to speak. That's a complex situation that would make generalities difficult. I look forward to the responses.

I need some time to reflect on my answer.

Xileh

Hello, euphemistic.

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking. Obviously, you know about anal pleasure. Intellectually, you understand that we straight guys are turned on by women. So, when engaged in sexual relations, it's natural to enjoy anal stim by itself or in conjunction with oral or vaginal sex. Whether it's a finger, a dildo, a vibe or Aneros, the effects are similar. I also like the idea that my wife is getting off while I'm getting off. Sometimes, the best way for that to happen is for her to wear a double dildo that hits her hot spots AND mine simultaneously. In other words, pegging makes the experience more about mutual pleasure and less about me, me, me.

Cheers,

Dave

Hi Dave, I was wondering about that, if the pegging device was pleasuring the woman too with the double dildo. That sounds sexy to me, both getting pleasure with the same motions, the same device and the same kind of deep pleasures at the same time, with each other. I think I'm beginning to get the picture of what pegging is about. thank you.

So you mix it up sexually with your wife, sometimes f**king her and sometimes being f**ked? I guess I could have figured that out for myself if I thought about it. But my imagination doesn't usually go that way. I have been pretty limited sexually up to now.

I've sometimes thought that 2 men with aneros's inside and getting sexual, even going through dry orgasms or super Os at the same time or alternately, would be my ultimate fantasy. Maybe even sharing the same device, back and forth! Do any of the gay men here do that?

I noticed that I prefer to be penetrated over being the penetrator in general, although I usually go back and forth (at least in fantasies) being either and sometimes being both at the same time. I also noticed that us bottoms seem to go into a kind of trance when penetrated while the top one doesn't exactly go to the same place. Maybe it's just the focus on what's going on deep inside and the luxury of NOT HAVING TO DO ANYTHING for a change. Just enjoy the pleasure that we're receiving from our partner.

You're welcome, euphemistic. Sounds like you understand what's going on with pegging, now.

As for top vs bottom experiences, my wife and I switch back and forth a lot. That is probably more common than most people think. Both roles are pleasurable, so why be limited?

I don't know about sharing sex toys within a session, Aneros, vibes or whatever. Sanitation can become an issue even between partners. Best to each have a set for simultaneous use. Sharing a toy box of stuff isn't a problem as long as the toys are well cleaned between uses.

Cheers,

Dave

PS. The counters on this thread are broken.

Leave it to us to break the counters...sheesh!

[h=5]So I got this cool tote bag at CatalystCon West that says "Aneros" on it in large print...and I delight in taking it into the grocery store to see who recognizes it. Who knows, maybe this is how I will meet my forever man...![/h]

Haha @RubyRyder! Thats awesome, and of course it took a good woman to trump the lot of us. Bet none of us fellas would have the guts to do that including me.Youdawoman! I am married but if I was single and saw you and the bag and knew of its pleasures, you sure would get my attention 😡

Ill second that @braveneworld, I would think man this chic is freaky, and me likes it! LOL

I am married but I doubt I could resist the temptation to introduce myself to any woman I saw carrying such a bag, if only to find out why she is doing so!

😉 Thanks Gentlemen. It's easier for me to carry it because a) I'm single and b) for me, a man who is not interested in pegging - that's a deal breaker for obvious reasons, so it pays for me to advertise it a bit, and c) I'm a woman.

But I have to tell you - I would react the same way as @Pommie if I saw a man carrying one. I'd have to introduce myself just to do it and meet the man who is confident enough about his sexual preferences, or just that he's in touch with his ass (so to speak) that he would openly carry a bag like that.

Before I started using an Aneros I'd say HELL NO! But now...I would if she asked...as long as the thing wasn't too big. I don't want to feel like I'm getting raped by my GF lol.

Size of the toy is important - more so for the man than the woman, obviously. Funny how sometimes couples new to pegging will lean in one of two directions...the guy is so excited about pegging that his eyes are truly bigger than his ass and they purchase something too large. Or - he's so concerned that anal play will be painful that they purchase something the size of her finger (in which case she could have just used her finger). A nice medium size toy is best - like 6" in length and 1.25" in diameter.

Can we leave out the word "raped"? No no no!!!!

@Ruby Ryder You have a good point. And I apologise for using the word "rape". That seemed like the most descriptive word for a toy that might be too big, and a woman who is too enthusiastic about using it. I'm sure that I would enjoy the experience if everything was right.