I am a 43-year-old male and a veteran practitioner of "The Work" since 2010. My journey has taken me from the early MGX models to the Maximus, and eventually to mastering high-end 8-inch p-spot dildos. My studio sessions are 2-hour meditative deep dives, using noise-cancelling and sensory triggers like chocolate paste to reach a total flow state.

Crucial context on my Identity & Orientation: I am 100% heterosexually oriented. My romantic and sexual desires are exclusively focused on women. Furthermore, I have a profound aversion to BDSM power dynamics, "sissy-training," "cuckold", FLR-scripts, or any form of humiliation/coercion. For me, this 16-year journey is about anatomical mastery and the beauty of mutual surrender, not about "playing a role" or fetish-labels.

Through my dedication, I have discovered how to trigger both oral and anal prostate orgasms (HFOs). I’ve reached a point where the passionate "priming" of the instrument is the key that unlocks the door.

To be explicit: I find the act of passionately "servicing" the instrument—treating it with the same oral devotion I give to a female partner—to be a massive trigger for my arousal. This leads directly into a vagus-mediated "oral prostate orgasm" and sets the stage for a full-body anal HFO. By reviewing video recordings of my solo sessions, I have eliminated a long-standing "blind spot." I saw a man in a deep, passionate, and intimate flow state. It is a powerful, uninhibited display of male pleasure, but I am acutely aware of the social stigma that tries to push this into the "BDSM",  "Sissy", "cuckold",  box—a box I strongly reject.

My questions to the women and "Switch" partners here:

1. Beyond the visual 'heat' of seeing a man in a state of raw, unmasked lust while orally 'priming' the instrument—how does this impact your deeper connection to him? Do you perceive this level of devotion as an intimate bridge leading toward our shared union—a form of collective foreplay? Or is there a risk of it feeling like a solo meditative dive where you are merely an observer? I am curious how this uninhibited preparation dissolves the barriers between us, or if it creates a 'private space' that feels difficult to enter for a partner.

2. Dealing with Stigma: How do you, as a partner, navigate the gap between the world’s 'distorted lens'—the BDSM or sissy labels I so strongly reject—and the raw, authentic intensity of the flow state we share? When you witness the depth of my pleasure and surrender, is that private reality powerful enough to render the social stigma irrelevant to you? I am curious: does the 'realness' of our shared intimacy outweigh the noise of the public labels?

3. The "Hidden" Life: Does the gap between the man I am in the world and the connoisseur I am in the bedroom add to the excitement for you, or does the social stigma feel like a burden?

4. The Disclosure & The "Anti-Kink" Stance: How do I explain that I enjoy this "priming" without a woman thinking she’s dating someone who wants "sissy-training" or "BDSM coercion"?

5. The Visual Impact of the HFO: Does seeing the "authenticity" of a full-body, hands-free explosion of joy make it more attractive to you, knowing it’s about biological peak performance and not a fetish role?

6. The "Sweet Spot" for Disclosure: In your experience, when is the best moment to hear this while dating? My theory is that sharing this after several successful dates and established intimacy is best. At that point, she knows me as a man. Does this "phased" approach make it feel like an exciting option rather than a "must"? What's the women's perspective about this? 

7. The "Glass Box" & Radical Honesty: I keep my collection of about 20 tools (including 17 unisex toys) in a transparent box in my bedroom, decorated with hearts as a tribute to a late loved one—a reminder that life is short and should be lived to the fullest. I choose not to hide them, as I believe in being unashamed of my journey. How do you react to a man who is this open and transparent about his collection? Does seeing the "hardware" as a life-affirming display change your perspective on the man, or does the social script still create an initial hurdle?

8. The Power of the Key: How does it impact your sense of empowerment to be the "key" that unlocks these profound HFO releases? How does witnessing a self-assured man surrender so completely to your direction influence your perception of his masculinity?
   
   
   

Jus Asking? Yes, I’m thinking of trying it while eating my wife. ;)

or, using it while receiving… but giving is much, much better! 

yummy

I woke up early on a weekend, around 5am. My wife, is often awake and gets out of bed about that time. I guess her leaving the bed stirred me awake. I tried to nod off, but it wasn’t going to happen.

I have found that inserting my Helix can help me sleep. The warm tingles just put me out. So I slipped it in and sure enough, I slept soundly for a couple more hours.

I was starting to awaken when I sensed her beside me in the bed. She gave me a light, sexy kiss. She then gently pulled back the covers. Then, she began to lick my nipples. Since starting with Aneros, they have become extremely sensitive. She knows this, and teases me endlessly.

My eyes were closed and I felt something tickling my chest and nipples. I opened my eyes and she had her necklace with the key to my chastity cage. She circled my chest with it, twirling it around each nipple. She then guided it down my stomach to my groin. Next, I felt the key tinkling over the stainless steel bars of the chastity cage she locked on me weeks ago. It’s been so long I don’t know how many. Don’t get me wrong here. We have a lot of sex, But, on her terms. She likes me desperate and frustrated.

She inserted the key into the little brass padlock. She pretended to be having a difficult time with it and tells me, “It won’t come off!” Of course I’m getting hard, well as hard as I can, in a steel cage. She wiggled it and tugged on it, and eventually the lock released. She grasped the cage, and began to pull and rotate it, trying to pull it off my erection. Eventually, with great flourish, she pulled it off. Each bar of the cage caught briefly on my cock head. Strangely, she left the ring on, although I don’t think it would have come off at that point.

She had a bottle of lube with her. She pumped it a couple of times, and began to spread the cool gel over my hardness. When I am locked, I don’t feel much sensation from clothing or otherwise. As a result, the feeling of her slippery hands is overwhelming.

She played with my shaft and slipped a hand down to my perineum. She knows that rubbing it in time with stroking my shaft drives me wild. It didn’t take but a minute before she found the tail of the Helix. “What do we have here?”, she said.

She began to wiggle the handle while stroking me. Then she started to nibble and suck on my nipples. The combination was excruciating after being denied for weeks. She sensed me getting close, then backed off a little. The sensation on my prostate was insanely intense.

She continued for a least thirty minutes. Edging me close, backing off, taking me back to the edge, and pulling back. Every cell, in my body, wanted to finish in a massive explosion. 

One more trip to the edge, and she said, “Not this time.” She stopped the stimulation, and snuggled me until she could get the cage back on. Securely locked, I gave her at least four very powerful climaxes. 

She enjoys the reaction she gets from playing with the Aneros. The combination of wiggling it, and playing with my nipples, is great fun for her. Although I am sexually frustrated, I love the attention and the constant attraction I feel for her.

About 4 weeks ago, I had an Aneros session whilst high on MJ & managed to achieve MMO, including 4 super-Os - session lasted ~3h

I’ve since repeated 3 more times with similar outcomes (yay!!)

I told my wife about it & she’s keen to join in the sessions - we’ve ordered a strapless strap-on dildo & I can’t wait for her to use it on me

However… I’m worried that I could hurt my wife while I’m orgasming - I have quite strong full body contractions / spasms, with my back arching, rolling from side to side, then my arms & legs flailing around - I can’t really control this & I worry that during a big orgasm, I could end up kicking, kneeing or elbowing my wife in the head & really hurt her - particularly if her head is around my penis area 

Has anyone experienced this type of situation & could give me some practical advice?

Thanks so much!

The last few times I have had penetrative sex with my wife I have been having dry orgasms at will. Before I could do this occasionally during sex, maybe one in several times I’d hit the wave and surf.  But now it is practically flawless (in this case a flaw is me saying “argh, stop!” and pulling out to avoid accidental ejaculation).  Just orgasm after orgasm, usually together with her, until she is ready for me to ejaculate or stop if I am on a semen retention day.

My advice to get there is to learn how to have prostate orgasms, learn how to have non ejaculatory orgasms during masturbation (to feel penile stimulation with climax but no ejaculation), semen retention, and regular practice (i.e. fuck). Also we have taught each other to cum on command with vocal cues (as simple as saying “cum, baby” or “I love you so much”).

Last night I had my helix syn in from beginning to end.  We started with me on my side in a fetal position, balls between my legs so accessible from behind. She sucked my balls while caressing my ass, making me orgasm over and over, chewing on a pillow, my cock pathetically poking out shiny and crimson between my thighs, until my balls were sore after about ten minutes. Then I ate her pussy with her on her back, pinching her butt (she gets the equivalent pleasure with butt pinching as I do from having my balls sucked, and can have orgasms from that alone) until she had had a few orgasms. After that we fucked for about 20 minutes, sort of doggy style but on our sides. We both came multiple times and had to take a break.  

After a glass of water and a giggle, she went after my balls again for another ten minutes or so (that’s my limit in one go with my balls, unless I’m high or especially in the zone), this time with her fingers as she sucked and caressed my neck, chest and armpits.  This second time around it was especially intense. Then we went at it missionary, which I like because i can look her in the eyes, see her beautiful curves from the front, and she can caress my chest and just barely reach around her massive butt to my balls with her perfect petit hands, making me growl and scream.  Cum, rinse and repeat.

After a while and a couple position changes it seemed she was getting to the point of exhaustion (which I was already at but hey, her happy means I’m happy!).  I asked her if she wanted me to éjaculate on her, as we don’t use birth control. She said yes, but first fuck me some more. Yes ma’am. She brought her legs together lying on her back and I lay on top her, both of us straight as logs like two Lego people. This is her favorite position I think. It creates pretty wild sensations what with my penis being slightly bent by awkward angle and her pussy being generally jam-smashed with my cock (that’s the technical jargon, I believe), and the stiffness of our bodies bends eroticism towards the absurd.  Not much to tell here, I think she saw god and I could hardly see from my eyes dancing rumbas in their sockets. We kept saying let’s cum together but for some reason we were misaligned and came one after another in leap-frog fashion.  Finally I pull out and jerked off on her soft belly as she eagerly tugged on my balls with her fingertips. Four days semen retention followed by and hour and a half of shenanigans, that leaves a mighty mess to clean up!

Anywho I think I will give up all sex after this, because it seems like it’s a waste of energy and it’s pretty repetitive. However, just to be sure I’ll try one last time…

  
Even at this life stage we’re still curious & playful! 

In the long quest to create a 1:1 copy of my own cock, I finally, after trying off and on since 2006, made a perfect 1:1 clone of my erection a month ago. My wife of course helped :)  Its a perfect copy, its amazing. It is quite fun to be with my copy, it is fun to play with it orally and of course, in my own body.

I made a partial copy this spring but it wasn't perfect and does not reflect my true full size. My wife and I played with this smaller less perfect clone earlier this year and she pegged me with it. As she wore it she said to me "now try to deepthroat yourself" and I did with ease, a bit embarrassed to do it, but she got off hard as she watched me devour myself, and then had to fuck me with myself as she watched me (my copy as she wore it) dive in and out of my ass. It is fucking surreal and just beyond belief to do this!!

Its been fun off and on but now with a perfect copy of myself I can really feel exactly what my cock is like and what it can do to my ass. Never in a million years could I have imagined how 'perfect' my own cock feels inside of my ass. To feel it run across my prostate is different from any of the several realistic dildos I have or any other toy I've used for over 20 years during anal and prostate play.

Just having myself in me fully gets me to have orgasms. These Os are different from any I've ever had, though. They are deeper than my already deep prostate and anal orgasms. They are like 'super Os' but different in intensity and origin. It doesn't even move inside me much and the sensations are beyond belief.

Last night my wife finally wore my new copy and she held it while attached to her and she almost came from just wearing it and looking at it and its size against her tiny little body, and I sucked it like crazy and then she fucked me with myself. She came buckets from literally no actual touch of her pussy. I had monumental deep Os. Then I got on top and rode myself very slowly and just enjoyed the feeling of being full knowing it was my own cock filling me up. We got me hard and I came loads on top of her as I was buried deep inside myself. Cum just all the fuck over her body, so much jizz. What a totally fulfilling O and Super T and Super O combined ;)

My question to the trekkers here is have you ever done this before? Has anyone who has a pegging-friendly relationship made a mold of their own cock to receive themselves anally? Or to get your loving partner to wear you like its their own cock and have fun with it? I'd love to know because this phenomenon is not unique to me I'm not the only perv out there to indulge in such wild ass pleasures. It is FUN beyond my wildest imagination for sure!

have your partner lie down in front of you on the bed, flat on their back. They then lift their left knee up toward their breast, then roll their torso and left leg toward their right until their left knee is touching the bed and they are on their side, sort of in fetal position but with the right leg out straight underneath then. Now you have a clear shot at their genitals and ass for penetration.  You straddle their right leg to penetrate, which is perfect to place a flanged dildo upon and ride while you fuck them. I did this to roaring success last night…

I also want to make some underwear with a proper hole to fuck my partner and simultaneously hold my dildo in my ass…

I personally initially started to find out about the anal sensations using a Kegel8 and then decided to give Aneros a go. I spent a couple of months using the Kegel8 using a perisphera anal probe and soon discovered that nipple stimulation  triggered great sensations.

My wife has now been trying the Peridise and is attempting to stimulate with anal contractions and sensations assisted with nipple stimulation. However I think the issue is that her nipple stimulation is "wired" to her clitoris and g spot, and so getting going anally is proving slower. Any ideas how we can or whether we should remedy that or approach it in a different way?