As for my first entry I want to give a Minister/Pastor's perspective on use of the Aneros and Anal play.
Who an I?
I am a Christian Minister/Pastor that spend a number of years in full time Christian ministry. I am mid 40's, married with young kids. I have a active relationship with Jesus Christ.
Why this blog entry?
I have come across a few posts of people unsure if Anal play runs against their Christian beliefs. Â
It is most definitely a controversial topic, and if you asked me 6 months ago that I would be writing such a blog entry, I would have said that you are nuts. Even though I moved in circles that teaches that anal play/sex is "wrong". I always wondered about it and as a result went on a search to find out why anal play is "wrong" from a scriptural perspective.
I must say that my perspective changed a lot since I swapped the stick I had up my butt for a Helix Syn!
Is there anything in the bible that is against anal play/sex?
No, there is not. I have seen many people use bible verses out of context to try and prove that it is wrong, but all failed in my opinion.
That is the short of it. If you are interested in a more detailed explanation you are welcome to read on.
People who have a "thou shalt not" type of attitude generally focus on the letter of the Bible and miss the heart of the bible.
If I would have to sum up the whole bible in one paragraph, I would do it as follows:
The first few pages of the bible is the story of how God created the Earth and everything on it, including us. He placed us in paradise and gave us one choice to ensure that we had free will.  We chose to reject Him. The rest of the Bible is the story of what He did to reconcile us with Him. Â
The welfare of humans is THE most important thing to God. Everything He says and does has the ultimate goal of helping us, even though it might not look like it. All the "Thou shalt nots" in the Bible had the purpose of protecting and educating us in the best way of living life. If something is not mentioned in the bible as a sin it is not a sin unless you believe it is wrong.
What do I mean by that? If you believe something to be wrong )even if it might not be( and you still do it, you are going against your belief which means you have the intention to be disobedient so you are. In short….your attitude stinks.
What about Porn?
Porn is wrong. Why? Because when you watch porn you regard that woman as a object, not as a person. Come now! Be truthfull! When you whatch porn you do not think of that girl as someone with feelings and dreams and insecurities…..as someone's daughter. You see a body that excites you and thats it! That is why porn is wrong. It hits to the core of God's values. Besides porn distracts more than it aids.
At the risk of becoming long winded (which we tend to be very good at) I am concluding this here.
Questions and comments are most welcome. I will endeavor to respond to all.
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God and Aneros
Posted on June 10th, 2014. Session Length: Models Used:
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Anonymous
I so agree. As a christian/homosexual/aneros user I still live my life for the lord and talk to him regularly but I still have sexual needs that have nothing to do with god or my beliefs. I keep them separate. People get so confused and is so scared of the judgement that will come if found out. But as good as anal/aneros play is its worth it.
Anonymous
Thank You for your bold step of faith in posting what you posted.
I agree. Lust is the culprit and destroyer of many a man. But aneros and anal work can actually be done giving honor and thanks to God for the exquisite feelings in the male body He created.
Anonymous
Well hello! I LOVE this blog entry. Keep them coming. I have been trying to tell people this for a LONG time…how many people will read this I have no clue. I have a few people I definitely plan to send here to read this ASAP. Everything in it was spot on in my view great job! Thanks for popping my blog comment cherry as I never leave comments on blogs.
Anonymous
Thank you for your perspective pastor!
Regarding pornography…Does your interpretation reflect the word or the spirit of the bible? And, does that interpretation mean that no man, single or married should, in Gods eyes, ever look upon a woman with lust?
TG
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Anonymous
I agree partly about porn but for different reasons.Most porn is just tasteless, repetitive moaning etc. There's some porn out there however that's really good, women looking really slutty, sexy moaning, good camera angles, good blowjob faces etc.
There's a book called Sex at Dawn in which the author makes the claims based on how are sexual features)balls, penis etc( have developed that humans pre agriculture 'lived the life' what we can now only watch in good porn, everyone fucking everyone. Hence there was no war, no murder an egalitarian society. Monogamy is not our natural way.Lust is and there's a reason lust feels good, thru sex bonds were strengthend.
Anonymous
@Theme_Gasm IMO the view on porn that I expressed speaks to the spirit of the bible. Unfortunately porn is not named in the bible, so we must see where it fits under the things that are named, like sexual immorality.
Trying to fit something in the bible that is not named specifically can cause a lot of division amongst people. So as a rule of thumb that I personally follow in such a case is to view the issue in the light of the spirit of the bible.
As far as your question about looking at a woman with lust, I think the verse in Matthew 5:28 where Jesus says that looking at a woman with lust equates to adultery, is meant for married people. The word "adultery" means to have unlawfull intercourse with another man's husband/wife so it only applies if one of the parties is married.
For single people I do not believe there is any issue with lust….as long as the persons individuality and dignity is respected and the person you are lusting after is also single. To lust after a woman is a natural part of the courting process. I mean when I met my wife I lusted after her like a pig in heat! That is normal and IMO should never be condemmed.
Anonymous
@Theme_Gasm IMO the view on porn that I expressed speaks to the spirit of the bible. Unfortunately porn is not named in the bible, so we must see where it fits under the things that are named, like sexual immorality.
Trying to fit something in the bible that is not named specifically can cause a lot of division amongst people. So as a rule of thumb that I personally follow in such a case is to view the issue in the light of the spirit of the bible.
As far as your question about looking at a woman with lust, I think the verse in Matthew 5:28 where Jesus says that looking at a woman with lust equates to adultery, is meant for married people. The word "adultery" means to have unlawfull intercourse with another man's husband/wife so it only applies if one of the parties is married.
For single people I do not believe there is any issue with lust….as long as the persons individuality and dignity is respected and the person you are lusting after is also single. To lust after a woman is a natural part of the courting process. I mean when I met my wife I lusted after her like a pig in heat! That is normal and IMO should never be condemmed.
Anonymous
I like what you have to say about God or a higher principle wanting what is best for us. I believe that too. I can't prove it but my gut and mind tell me it's true. The thrust of everyting in the universe seems to be for more and more complexity and advancement. it's seems clear to me that us human beings have some role to play in this, I'm not sure what. Aneros fits in at the juncture of physical, suble and spiritual development for me. I'm learning about the wonders of pleasure that my body is capable of. I'm learning about the energetic interface between physical and spritual and how that works. I've not had much experience with the spiritual yet but want to.
However you say "What do I mean by that? If you believe something to be wrong (even if it might not be) and you still do it, you are going against your belief which means you have the intention to be disobedient so you are. In short….your attitude stinks."
You're talking about subjective guilt here IMO, believing something to be wrong because other people believe it to be wrong and have influenced you. This is common in religions. It is the way that religious institutions control us from childhood to the grave. This is different from connecting to the ground of our essental being and KNOWING what is wrong. In other words, our conscience. IMO not enough distinction is made in the religions between knowledge based on our foundation and quilt instilled by controlling outside institutions.
As for porn, that's a easy target. The worst porn is demeaning to human beings on every level. When talking about arousal though and human needs and desires, which is what aneros is about in part at least; the best porn is just an extension of our erotic fantasies, training wheels for learning new things about ourselves as humans. The connection we have with another during sex is one of the most precious experiences I have had. Porn does not substitute for this connection but is a guidepost to this closeness with another. When it misleads with unreal expectations, people can get confused and THAT is the danger, not porn in itself.
I am not a Christian but was raised in the Catholic church and taught by nuns and Jesuits. I have great sympathy for my Christian brothers and sisters. Thank you for bringing up and clarifying this important issue.
Anonymous
I like your Bible thoughts. I would add this thought, which harmonizes with yours, just different words. "The Bible is one long story of God meeting our rebellion with rescue, our sin with salvation, our guilt with grace." I too suggest that I can find no prohibition of anal play in the Scriptures. I will not speak about singles engaging in auto-eroticism. I will say to the married guys: Auto-eroticism should never take away from your intimacy quality and quantity as it regards your wife. An open and honest relationship, whereby she knows that you take time for yourself, and she agrees with such, can build a solid relationship. We can surely begin to love the object instead of our wives, so against that we must guard. My wife approves of my auto-eroticism when I am away as do I for her. When we are together there is no need for such, and anal play is part of our repertoire. We are both health care workers and know the need for "special handling" and the various risks. We also recognize the bond building of vulnerability as well as the plethora of nerve endings that produce awesome sexual experiences. A couple things we do not do is obsess over engaging in it always or refusing to admit anal play's enjoyment on occasion. I enjoy outer as well as penetrating anal play , but she is more of a rim player….but sometimes not even that and I respect her for saying, "Not there tonight". And I also respect her if she is not feeling quite up to giving me anal play. It is unselfish relational love that should be at the heart of anal play and for the married buys out there….your "alone time" should incorporate thoughts of your wife or the sensual viewing and/or listening to love making by you and your wife. I agree with the pastor….porn should be off limits. Build your intimacy with your wife and help her be a part of your anal and aneros experience.
Anonymous
I agree. Anything that the Bible does not specifically condemn is okay to do it, as long as it is done within certain limits.
1 Cor 10:23-33 gives these limitations or principles to follow…
– Seek the good of others over yourself
– Be thankful for it
– Don't cause another person to stumble by thinking you are sinning in front of them or being a hypocrite
– Glorify God through it
– And You must be fully convinced that it is okay to do )Ro 14:5, 22(
1 Timothy 4:4 is a good summary verse "For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving". God created this capacity for joy and does not specifically condemn it, thus it is good.